I know this girl...she has this problem.
She tends to find people to latch onto. She spends months getting really, really close to them She puts them on a pedastle, leaves them giggly little messages saying she misses them, she drags them to bed failry often (actually the 'sleeping with her' thing is not required. She'll do it to people she sleeps with, and she'll do it to people that are just plain old friends as well. But if you sleep with her then it's pretty much gauranteed it will happen) and then, after about 4 months to a year, suddenly decides to push them out of her life. It's usually an overnight change. One day she'll be just like any other day, then the very next she no longer talks to them.
She claims she doesn't do this. She denies it all. She's done it to at least three people since I moved here, she's done it to at least a few more since before I moved here, and she's doing it to another friend of mine right now.
Whenever anyone tries to confront her on the issue, she rationalizes it about that person, while still denying that she's ever done the same thing to anyone else.
Every so often she'll kinda, sorta, almost admit that she doesn't it, but words it in the vaguest terms she can, and then makes a huge proclamtion that she's changed and doesn't do it anymore. Meanwhile she pushes the people she's already done it to further out of her life and quickly goes about doing the same thing to a new victim.
She's apparently going to therapy, but the way she talks it's almost as if her therapist is telling her to run away from her problems and the people that 'make her do this' because they'll only hurt and hinder her 'on her long road to recovery'.
A couple days ago, her new internet gilrfriend moved here all the way from Florida, throwing away her old life and even leaving her old boyfriend to be with her, just before this happened this girl out here made another proclemation about how she's changed, then went on to alienate a few of her ex friends just a little more. She was also heard to say that she's using this new relationship 'to help her self get over these past bad experiences'.
Though I'm not happy about myself for it, I can't help but feel more than a little bitterness towards this person, since I have to deal with them on a nearly daily basis...
She tends to find people to latch onto. She spends months getting really, really close to them She puts them on a pedastle, leaves them giggly little messages saying she misses them, she drags them to bed failry often (actually the 'sleeping with her' thing is not required. She'll do it to people she sleeps with, and she'll do it to people that are just plain old friends as well. But if you sleep with her then it's pretty much gauranteed it will happen) and then, after about 4 months to a year, suddenly decides to push them out of her life. It's usually an overnight change. One day she'll be just like any other day, then the very next she no longer talks to them.
She claims she doesn't do this. She denies it all. She's done it to at least three people since I moved here, she's done it to at least a few more since before I moved here, and she's doing it to another friend of mine right now.
Whenever anyone tries to confront her on the issue, she rationalizes it about that person, while still denying that she's ever done the same thing to anyone else.
Every so often she'll kinda, sorta, almost admit that she doesn't it, but words it in the vaguest terms she can, and then makes a huge proclamtion that she's changed and doesn't do it anymore. Meanwhile she pushes the people she's already done it to further out of her life and quickly goes about doing the same thing to a new victim.
She's apparently going to therapy, but the way she talks it's almost as if her therapist is telling her to run away from her problems and the people that 'make her do this' because they'll only hurt and hinder her 'on her long road to recovery'.
A couple days ago, her new internet gilrfriend moved here all the way from Florida, throwing away her old life and even leaving her old boyfriend to be with her, just before this happened this girl out here made another proclemation about how she's changed, then went on to alienate a few of her ex friends just a little more. She was also heard to say that she's using this new relationship 'to help her self get over these past bad experiences'.
Though I'm not happy about myself for it, I can't help but feel more than a little bitterness towards this person, since I have to deal with them on a nearly daily basis...
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I'm a bit lonely, mainly missing my friends back east. Out here I have a better job, a better apartment, and can afford to eat every day..but most of the people I know out here are incredibly distant and impersonal.