r0nin47

Well, my brother has shown me his complete lack of motivation and a total lack of respect for anyone in the short time that he has been here.. I'm now faced with the difficult decision of sending him back to Chicago or continuing to support him if he stays here. I know if I let him stay here and continue to support him, I'll only be hurting him, but he is family and it's a lot harder to turn away a family member... I don't know what to do.. He just wants to keep fucking his life up and refuses to listen to anyone. He reminds me very much of myself when I was his age. I just don't know how to deal with it.. I want to help him, but he has no motivation to get his act together.. I've tried to talk to him and inspire him to do something other than lay around on the couch after sleeping till noon every day, but I feel like I'm talking to a deaf person.

I've been depressed for a couple of weeks now and this situation is making it even worse.. I thought if he came out here and saw that after all I had been through I was still able to make something of my life, he would try to do the same.. What can I really show him though? Sure, I've got a nice house, a business, nice stuff, etc. but in the last six months, work has been my whole life.. I'm not really happy here and I think people can see that.. In some ways I feel like I have intentionaly isolated myself more in the last few months. I'm not so sure that I'm a good example for anyone to follow..