i don't have the time or the energy to deal or be understanding of the severely depressed.
i myself often have problems with depression, and am always willing to be there for a friend, but there are certain things that i cannot just sit around and be patient about.
a person in my life is having severe problems that have become so bad that they are now manifesting themselves into paranoia.
her aural and visual comprehension is so low that she has mistaken several things as meaning other things. examples:
my friend says that she thinks she is fat ----> in the head of paranoid friend this means my other friend was calling HER fat
i told my friend she was acting like a brat ----> i called her crazy
me hanging out with sg people on nights when she can't go out ----> me not caring about her anymore and being a bad friend
infact, she'll probably read this and misinterpret what i've said.
anyway, her decision to not talk to me based on her own made-up reasons, has made me extremely angry and looking at the ways she has treated me wrongly.
ONE INSTANCE is my birthday celebration. let me start a list, since the entire night was a disaster on her own selfish part.
1) she wanted to change where we ate dinner and was very verbal about it and kept complaining throughout the evening. i'm sorry, but at someone else's bday you don't have a right to complain about where THEY want to eat THEIR own birthday dinner.
2) no card or anything. considering we were supposed to be close friends, all i expect is a card or something. on her birthday when she turned 21, i brought her a big thing of alcohol. oh.. and then she dissed me partway into the night (at her bday) so she could go make-out with an 18 year old brat. it's a good thing i'm not anything like her...
3) i was late arriving to my own thing, and several of my friends were also late due to extenuating circumstances. this friend i'm discussing got very antsy and demanding, and starting bitching about how we should just order without the friends that hadn't arrived and how it was their own responsibility to be on time and yaddayadda. listen, it was my fucking birthday and i wanted to wait and see if some people i hadn't heard from were going to show up. i also knew a few others were on the way, and so i wanted to wait for them to order food.
i settled the situation by essentially telling her to shut the fuck up by saying "well, it's my birthday and i want to wait".
4) at the club after dinner, she tells me half an hour into it that she's bored... like i'm supposed to entertain her or something.
5) the day after she writes in her journal about the entire night without even mentioning it was my birthday, and only mentions that she kissed a friend of mine or something and another one drew her.
6) there were no happy bday wishes for me the day after my party on my ACTUAL birthday. infact, i'm not even sure she wished me happy bday at my celebration.
now, this friend of mine is hanging out all the time with this very nice guy that atleast used to have a crush on her. i worry she's using him, because the first time she introduced me to him it went like this "oh, my friend m--- will be there, and we can get him to buy us drinks."
great. it's nice to know you thought of that guy in a purely "what can i get out of him?" capacity.
so, essentially i'm frustrated. she's obviously jealous of my new sg friends, despite the fact that i've bent over backwards to introduce her to all of them and have tried to include her in social events.
you know what? FUNK DAT. i'm not superwoman, and if someone expects me to do something impossible for them (like spend time with them i DO NOT have), then they shouldn't get angry with me when (surprise surprise) things fall through.
i have other friends, and i'm constantly making new ones. infact, there are a lot of neat/interesting people at my new whole foods job.
it's her loss. i was a damn good friend to her and would have continued to be one given the chance. if she wants to continue to be a jealous etc person, than it will only continue to get in the way of any current or new friendships.
hey, i still have friendships from 6th grade.
also, note to self: stop becoming friends with people who initially want to fuck you. they seem to always end badly.
i myself often have problems with depression, and am always willing to be there for a friend, but there are certain things that i cannot just sit around and be patient about.
a person in my life is having severe problems that have become so bad that they are now manifesting themselves into paranoia.
her aural and visual comprehension is so low that she has mistaken several things as meaning other things. examples:
my friend says that she thinks she is fat ----> in the head of paranoid friend this means my other friend was calling HER fat
i told my friend she was acting like a brat ----> i called her crazy
me hanging out with sg people on nights when she can't go out ----> me not caring about her anymore and being a bad friend
infact, she'll probably read this and misinterpret what i've said.
anyway, her decision to not talk to me based on her own made-up reasons, has made me extremely angry and looking at the ways she has treated me wrongly.
ONE INSTANCE is my birthday celebration. let me start a list, since the entire night was a disaster on her own selfish part.
1) she wanted to change where we ate dinner and was very verbal about it and kept complaining throughout the evening. i'm sorry, but at someone else's bday you don't have a right to complain about where THEY want to eat THEIR own birthday dinner.
2) no card or anything. considering we were supposed to be close friends, all i expect is a card or something. on her birthday when she turned 21, i brought her a big thing of alcohol. oh.. and then she dissed me partway into the night (at her bday) so she could go make-out with an 18 year old brat. it's a good thing i'm not anything like her...
3) i was late arriving to my own thing, and several of my friends were also late due to extenuating circumstances. this friend i'm discussing got very antsy and demanding, and starting bitching about how we should just order without the friends that hadn't arrived and how it was their own responsibility to be on time and yaddayadda. listen, it was my fucking birthday and i wanted to wait and see if some people i hadn't heard from were going to show up. i also knew a few others were on the way, and so i wanted to wait for them to order food.
i settled the situation by essentially telling her to shut the fuck up by saying "well, it's my birthday and i want to wait".
4) at the club after dinner, she tells me half an hour into it that she's bored... like i'm supposed to entertain her or something.
5) the day after she writes in her journal about the entire night without even mentioning it was my birthday, and only mentions that she kissed a friend of mine or something and another one drew her.
6) there were no happy bday wishes for me the day after my party on my ACTUAL birthday. infact, i'm not even sure she wished me happy bday at my celebration.
now, this friend of mine is hanging out all the time with this very nice guy that atleast used to have a crush on her. i worry she's using him, because the first time she introduced me to him it went like this "oh, my friend m--- will be there, and we can get him to buy us drinks."
great. it's nice to know you thought of that guy in a purely "what can i get out of him?" capacity.
so, essentially i'm frustrated. she's obviously jealous of my new sg friends, despite the fact that i've bent over backwards to introduce her to all of them and have tried to include her in social events.
you know what? FUNK DAT. i'm not superwoman, and if someone expects me to do something impossible for them (like spend time with them i DO NOT have), then they shouldn't get angry with me when (surprise surprise) things fall through.
i have other friends, and i'm constantly making new ones. infact, there are a lot of neat/interesting people at my new whole foods job.
it's her loss. i was a damn good friend to her and would have continued to be one given the chance. if she wants to continue to be a jealous etc person, than it will only continue to get in the way of any current or new friendships.
hey, i still have friendships from 6th grade.
also, note to self: stop becoming friends with people who initially want to fuck you. they seem to always end badly.
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Just drop it. If you're not friends anymore, you're not friends. But don't go on with this pointless bickering.
Also. While I do appreciate your conern, I am an adult, and I can watch out for myself. But thank you,
[Edited on Mar 10, 2003]
hi. so i have issues with my body. BUT, I AM NOT FUCKING YOU, NOR DO I WANT TO, so WHY would i care about your body? or maybe she just assumes everybody cares about it, given her track record.