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When the person you are seeing is A LOT like your ex?

Apr 25, 2015
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First blog in a long time, but I have a question I need answered.

I am doing FANTASTIC! I have been off my anti-depression meds for over a month and I've not felt this good since before the shit, I'm loving life, great times cosplay and being punk as fuck.

But I have a dilemma, I'm seeing someone I met through OK Cupid, we were at the same Comic-con a few days after we started talking, hung out all day. She came to visit me a couple of weeks after and we had a fantastic weekend, get on amazingly well, can talk for hours and the sex is mind blowing.

However there is a problem in how well we get along, it's largely down to she is a lot like my ex in a lot of ways, so many of her mannerisms her almost identical and the way we interact is so similar. I didn't notice this till the weekend was nearly over but it sat in the back of the mind that last few hours and has done since.

We text every day, talk really well, really dirty sometimes and it continues to be a good thing. I should point out she lives about a hundred miles away which creates another issue of the distance. I have seen people briefly at distance and thought I would be prepared with them to do the distance, but because of the other issue the distance is causing a major issue in my mind.

This girl has been through a lot including abusive father and previous men. She usually only does polyamory and has never had a serious boyfriend but has said she would give that up for me if it came to it, which worries me further because she's clearly already quite attached.

I don't know what to do, we both go to a lot of comic-cons so will see each other there and have loads of great cosplay ideas, but I've gotten settled into amazing life and a long distance thing would take up half my weekends and mean I don't see friends often enough.

I realise I've probably given myself an answer through writing this blog but it's just being sure I would be doing the right thing in ending it and working up the courage to do so.

Opinions?

iggy:
You were right when you said that you already gave yourself an answer. The fact that you're worried about a long distance relationship taking up too many of your weekends should be answer enough. 
Apr 25, 2015
punx_:
@iggy You are right, I realised while writing this that I had essentially given too many reasons why not. The combination of the distance and the similarities with my ex is too much. It's not that I'm selfish about my weekends, it's just that I have too many important friends in my life now who I would never see if I did go further with this girl.
Apr 26, 2015

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