VOTE FOR WHAT I SHOULD DO NEXT!!
Hey SG Folks,
I hope this finds you well and good and loving life.
I am a little pissed off, a little sad, a little over it all. I have an account on one of the big mainstream social media sites - you probably do too, we might even know each other in real life. Whatever.
My ex - my ex fiance, in fact - just sent me the lamest internet "come on" ever of life.
She puts this post up - oh, I had a dream about you, it made me want to write a song. Then she gave me some lyrics, all old time references and in jokes and miss you and want you back subtext. It was just short of passing the point where she could plausibly deny that this is an attempt to rekindle some old bullshit. That's how she rolls, she is a master of this kind of bullshit.
She's got some fucking nerve. I'm married, three years now. And happily married, come to that. And she pulls some high school moony-eyed bullshit like this. It aggravates me no end.
I want to shake her and say, "Hey, we are both 42 years old. This isn't how adults act."
I should mention that she fucked around on me at least twice while we were together. I should mention that she devours people, attaches and soaks them for everything she can get out of them. I should mention that once her sister and I had a conversation RE whether or not she could be a sociopath. She is the id, she want's what she wants and doesn't mind trampling a few folks to get what she wants.
Anyway, I wanted to get that out.
VOTE in the comments: what should I do next? What I will NOT do: any passive-aggressive bullshit like bitching to her friends or putting a public post up about it What I will consider doing: ignoring it, telling her off (likely alienating all of my friends on that side of the world when she spins it like she was all innocent and I jumped to conclusions, but what are you gonna do), trying to talk to her about why that sort of behavior was never acceptable, but absolutely isn't acceptable given our ages and situations.
Otherwise things are on the cusp of okay and crappy. The missus is sick, has been sick all week. Since she had her thyroid out it seems like she is sick most of the time. This is a drag. I am considering joining one of those support groups for caretakers - I think that learning some coping strategies would be good for both of us.
That's it, I'm out. Love!
be well,
ph
Taoist Thought Of the Day: Hey! YOU! Get offa my TAO!
Pet Report: Bacchus is doing amazingly well these days, energetic and bright eyed and having fun. I can't really get him to play chase for more than a minute but its much better than he was doing a few weeks ago. Vindaloo is in one of her sweet phases, and if I lay down in bed she is attached to me and will not go away.
Currently Digging: Black Sabbath, Twin Peaks, home made granola, running, My Fucking Marriage, My Fucking Wife.
Hey SG Folks,
I hope this finds you well and good and loving life.
I am a little pissed off, a little sad, a little over it all. I have an account on one of the big mainstream social media sites - you probably do too, we might even know each other in real life. Whatever.
My ex - my ex fiance, in fact - just sent me the lamest internet "come on" ever of life.
She puts this post up - oh, I had a dream about you, it made me want to write a song. Then she gave me some lyrics, all old time references and in jokes and miss you and want you back subtext. It was just short of passing the point where she could plausibly deny that this is an attempt to rekindle some old bullshit. That's how she rolls, she is a master of this kind of bullshit.
She's got some fucking nerve. I'm married, three years now. And happily married, come to that. And she pulls some high school moony-eyed bullshit like this. It aggravates me no end.
I want to shake her and say, "Hey, we are both 42 years old. This isn't how adults act."
I should mention that she fucked around on me at least twice while we were together. I should mention that she devours people, attaches and soaks them for everything she can get out of them. I should mention that once her sister and I had a conversation RE whether or not she could be a sociopath. She is the id, she want's what she wants and doesn't mind trampling a few folks to get what she wants.
Anyway, I wanted to get that out.
VOTE in the comments: what should I do next? What I will NOT do: any passive-aggressive bullshit like bitching to her friends or putting a public post up about it What I will consider doing: ignoring it, telling her off (likely alienating all of my friends on that side of the world when she spins it like she was all innocent and I jumped to conclusions, but what are you gonna do), trying to talk to her about why that sort of behavior was never acceptable, but absolutely isn't acceptable given our ages and situations.
Otherwise things are on the cusp of okay and crappy. The missus is sick, has been sick all week. Since she had her thyroid out it seems like she is sick most of the time. This is a drag. I am considering joining one of those support groups for caretakers - I think that learning some coping strategies would be good for both of us.
That's it, I'm out. Love!
be well,
ph
Taoist Thought Of the Day: Hey! YOU! Get offa my TAO!
Pet Report: Bacchus is doing amazingly well these days, energetic and bright eyed and having fun. I can't really get him to play chase for more than a minute but its much better than he was doing a few weeks ago. Vindaloo is in one of her sweet phases, and if I lay down in bed she is attached to me and will not go away.
Currently Digging: Black Sabbath, Twin Peaks, home made granola, running, My Fucking Marriage, My Fucking Wife.
bigjobs:
I'd just ignore it.
punkinhead:
Good advice.