People change, and I have a hard time telling whether their preferences or their behavior has changed. If a person behaves in the way that they prefer and changes their behavior because of their preferences, I may not like it but I have an easier time accepting it than in the other case. If a person changes their behavior because they previously behaved contrary to their preferences, that creates a more difficult situation for me to accept.
I find it particularly annoying when a person acts against their preferences in order to obtain a committment, then changes their behavior.
If that doesn't make any sense, please comment to that effect and I'll try to clarify what I mean. Yes, it applies to a specific case, but that case doesn't merit an essay by itself. It just brought the dynamic into my consciousness and I decided to examine it from my current perspective. I would have once written it off as typical human fakeness, but I think that I can develop a more nuanced view if I consider it further.
I find it particularly annoying when a person acts against their preferences in order to obtain a committment, then changes their behavior.
If that doesn't make any sense, please comment to that effect and I'll try to clarify what I mean. Yes, it applies to a specific case, but that case doesn't merit an essay by itself. It just brought the dynamic into my consciousness and I decided to examine it from my current perspective. I would have once written it off as typical human fakeness, but I think that I can develop a more nuanced view if I consider it further.