As life goes on the complexity of it changes, things that should be easy become tough and tough things become easy. I am not sure if this is from a life time of knowledge to achieve your basic needs at what ever cost, Or quite simply you just get used to the struggle. With each giant step forward and accomplishment seems to be another setback or trouble brewing. At 18 life was simple, i wanted out of Michigan so i did what i saw was my only option i joined the navy. Unfortunately while getting ready to deploy i had a reaction to the anthrax shot that ended up costing me my job. So at 20 it seemed i had no choice but to go back to Michigan. Then the phone rang, Ive been working for my current company(although 3 name changes) for 12 years, job has had me living on both coasts and provided me with a great living. When looking at bennifits pay and so on its a great job. But now as a parent I find certain things i want to give my son very hard to give him living in CA. Now, it seems ive come full circle, I want nothing more then to move back to Michigan.
Now here lies the problem, my sons mom is not the greatest person in the world. This is not an EX being sore or angry at another person, its just her priorities are all screwed up. I have my son 70% of the time, and in her defense she loves her son, and when shes around shes a good mom. I have the training the certifications and the skill, to work now in almost any industrial setting in america(took all the classes that work had to offer) Not only am i a certified process operator, i am certified firefighter rope rescue confined space rescue, certified instructor for honeywell experian system so on and so on. So to my surprise i receive a job offer from a refinery in Michigan the other day. But i just cant seem to bring myself to take my EX to court. I cant see asking a judge to make it official that i can take my son from her. All my friends and family are telling me to do it for him, they all tell me that he will be much better with me full time. Which i agree with, but i know she loves him and he loves her.
This is a struggle with my brain and heart, and i dont know what way to go. I know stability wise he is better with me, but i do not know if a little less stability but being able to see both parents equals the risk. Ive sat down with a few child pyschologists and they seem to differ on their answers too. So who knows wish me luck. I probably will stall untill the offer is off the table anyways.
Now here lies the problem, my sons mom is not the greatest person in the world. This is not an EX being sore or angry at another person, its just her priorities are all screwed up. I have my son 70% of the time, and in her defense she loves her son, and when shes around shes a good mom. I have the training the certifications and the skill, to work now in almost any industrial setting in america(took all the classes that work had to offer) Not only am i a certified process operator, i am certified firefighter rope rescue confined space rescue, certified instructor for honeywell experian system so on and so on. So to my surprise i receive a job offer from a refinery in Michigan the other day. But i just cant seem to bring myself to take my EX to court. I cant see asking a judge to make it official that i can take my son from her. All my friends and family are telling me to do it for him, they all tell me that he will be much better with me full time. Which i agree with, but i know she loves him and he loves her.
This is a struggle with my brain and heart, and i dont know what way to go. I know stability wise he is better with me, but i do not know if a little less stability but being able to see both parents equals the risk. Ive sat down with a few child pyschologists and they seem to differ on their answers too. So who knows wish me luck. I probably will stall untill the offer is off the table anyways.