I already posted this on the Girls Only group... but I'm still bothered by it! Must be because it's Monday 
Okay... I'm not sure why this irritated me so much, but I was having a cool message session with a guy on Ok Cupid yesterday, when he mentioned that I was sexy, and do I talk to every guy that messages me? This is what ensued- be warned, this is LONG.
I talk to anyone that actually has something to say other thank u r hawt lets cyber, lol. BTW, in case that you didn't see it on my profile, I am engaged. I enjoy talking to people, though! Hope that you're having a good Sunday. I'm headed out to play some SWG, be back on later!
~ Pidgin
Nothing really insulting, right?
Well here is his response-
? Congrats ? Did you need a morality boast by telling me? Otherwise I'm not interested in marring you. =P Your cute but not that cute. just seen you have an 86% personality match and that's fairly high for most I come across on here
To which I reply-
Um... okay? I was just letting you know that though this is a dating site, I'm only here for women. I didn't want you to waste time talking to me if you were on here to find someone to date, that's all. I'm not *that* cute. I just wanted to make sure that intentions were clear and that we were just being friendly. After all, the internet doesn't have *tones* in voices that we can use to judge that.
~ Pidgin
Reply-
I dissagree... I'm told I'm the modern day E.E. Cummings.
And to tute my own horn...i don't need the internet to pick up woman if you can't see that. If you take time to read my profile closely you would come to realize I'm just here to pass time through my day. And make a friend or two along the way.
I appreciate the heads up...but would suggest a lil more tactful approach. Any other time I would construed that as an insult.
My reply-
I honestly was only trying to make sure that we were on the same page. I've had people *talk* to me on here before that said that I had wasted their time by not being clear in the beginning. I wasn't insinuating that you *need* the internet to pick up women, and I do consider that saying that I was cute, but not that cute, an insult. After all, I wasn't trying to be confrontational, I was just trying to be clear on things! Why would you have to return that with a defensive remark? I was trying to keep it friendly- thus the *I enjoy talking to people* comment. I was enjoying talking to you before you assumed I was being narcissistic and tried to *put me in my place*.
~Pidgin
His reply-
your know when I put you in your place...believe me. The newspaper will be rolled
I'm just laying out the flatware for you to observe.
Ummm... alright? I don't even understand that last remark. Guys, I really don't know why this irritated me so much, probably because it's first thing in the morning over here, but really? Was my remark really actually insulting, or am I just dealing with a stupid guy here?
Okay... I'm not sure why this irritated me so much, but I was having a cool message session with a guy on Ok Cupid yesterday, when he mentioned that I was sexy, and do I talk to every guy that messages me? This is what ensued- be warned, this is LONG.
I talk to anyone that actually has something to say other thank u r hawt lets cyber, lol. BTW, in case that you didn't see it on my profile, I am engaged. I enjoy talking to people, though! Hope that you're having a good Sunday. I'm headed out to play some SWG, be back on later!
~ Pidgin
Nothing really insulting, right?
Well here is his response-
? Congrats ? Did you need a morality boast by telling me? Otherwise I'm not interested in marring you. =P Your cute but not that cute. just seen you have an 86% personality match and that's fairly high for most I come across on here
To which I reply-
Um... okay? I was just letting you know that though this is a dating site, I'm only here for women. I didn't want you to waste time talking to me if you were on here to find someone to date, that's all. I'm not *that* cute. I just wanted to make sure that intentions were clear and that we were just being friendly. After all, the internet doesn't have *tones* in voices that we can use to judge that.
~ Pidgin
Reply-
I dissagree... I'm told I'm the modern day E.E. Cummings.
And to tute my own horn...i don't need the internet to pick up woman if you can't see that. If you take time to read my profile closely you would come to realize I'm just here to pass time through my day. And make a friend or two along the way.
I appreciate the heads up...but would suggest a lil more tactful approach. Any other time I would construed that as an insult.
My reply-
I honestly was only trying to make sure that we were on the same page. I've had people *talk* to me on here before that said that I had wasted their time by not being clear in the beginning. I wasn't insinuating that you *need* the internet to pick up women, and I do consider that saying that I was cute, but not that cute, an insult. After all, I wasn't trying to be confrontational, I was just trying to be clear on things! Why would you have to return that with a defensive remark? I was trying to keep it friendly- thus the *I enjoy talking to people* comment. I was enjoying talking to you before you assumed I was being narcissistic and tried to *put me in my place*.
~Pidgin
His reply-
your know when I put you in your place...believe me. The newspaper will be rolled
I'm just laying out the flatware for you to observe.
Ummm... alright? I don't even understand that last remark. Guys, I really don't know why this irritated me so much, probably because it's first thing in the morning over here, but really? Was my remark really actually insulting, or am I just dealing with a stupid guy here?
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niobe:
Thanks! Zinc is great. But it ain't doin' shit right now. Hopefully I will feel better soon.
cascal:
You were cool, calm and collected. He got his feelings hurt for no good reason and wanted to slash and burn. I think you handled the whole dialogue very appropriately. Forget about it.