R,
I said in my email to you that those words were the first and last you were going to hear from me on that topic. I meant that. That had been building for 3 months -- I needed to get that off my chest and I did.
That being said, I dont have a clear indication of what it is you are really going through over there, but due to the fact that you told me on more than one occasion that you dont want to know anything about my life, and then I find out that you were reading my journal (usually the day after sending me one of your particularly nasty emails, or yesterday afternoon for example) I have no logical reason to really trust that your words to me are true to what you are really feeling or thinking. That is why I mentioned to you that I found out about your visits to my SG blog. It simply proves that honesty is not exactly on the table here yet.
I truly believe that this is what you have wanted for quite some time now, and were hoping that with enough pressure, I would eventually crumble and make this decision for you. I suppose it is the easiest solution for you.
This is all your decision. You are in complete control of your life and your decisions, which includes your choices on how to react to difficult situations. Do not try to put this off on me, it was not my decision, nor did I force you.
We got Morgan after much deliberation over whether or not we could handle the responsibility of owning a dog like him. That responsibility has not left either one of us.
I am disappointed, sad and yes maybe even a bit angry that you would abandon him, (its strange how the anger is so tampered by understanding, I am totally not mad about this.) but I want you to know that I am leaving the door to him open.
If at anytime in the future you decide you would like to see him, a week from now or 5 months from now, I remain completely flexible to that, and he is yours for a visit anytime you want.
If you do want to see him, please dont feel like it would be showing weakness on your part to contact me and ask. If anything it would be a show of your strength, which I know you have plenty of.
There is no power struggle here, just life.
S
I said in my email to you that those words were the first and last you were going to hear from me on that topic. I meant that. That had been building for 3 months -- I needed to get that off my chest and I did.
That being said, I dont have a clear indication of what it is you are really going through over there, but due to the fact that you told me on more than one occasion that you dont want to know anything about my life, and then I find out that you were reading my journal (usually the day after sending me one of your particularly nasty emails, or yesterday afternoon for example) I have no logical reason to really trust that your words to me are true to what you are really feeling or thinking. That is why I mentioned to you that I found out about your visits to my SG blog. It simply proves that honesty is not exactly on the table here yet.
I truly believe that this is what you have wanted for quite some time now, and were hoping that with enough pressure, I would eventually crumble and make this decision for you. I suppose it is the easiest solution for you.
This is all your decision. You are in complete control of your life and your decisions, which includes your choices on how to react to difficult situations. Do not try to put this off on me, it was not my decision, nor did I force you.
We got Morgan after much deliberation over whether or not we could handle the responsibility of owning a dog like him. That responsibility has not left either one of us.
I am disappointed, sad and yes maybe even a bit angry that you would abandon him, (its strange how the anger is so tampered by understanding, I am totally not mad about this.) but I want you to know that I am leaving the door to him open.
If at anytime in the future you decide you would like to see him, a week from now or 5 months from now, I remain completely flexible to that, and he is yours for a visit anytime you want.
If you do want to see him, please dont feel like it would be showing weakness on your part to contact me and ask. If anything it would be a show of your strength, which I know you have plenty of.
There is no power struggle here, just life.
S
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Maybe she's just checking to see who you are dating,
what horrible things you are saying about her,
What horrible things other people are saying about her,
or trying to validate the evil misconceptions of you that she has roaming around in her head. (The stories that go about when communication shuts down)
Ahhhh. what we do to ourselves and those around us.
With time there will be peace. But first there must be a new way of B-E-I-N-G. I wish the best for all those involved, including those with paws.