So I'd tried responding to a few blog homework questions before, but never actually posted them for one reason or another. That means this is the first piece of blog homework I've completed, ever! It goes back to some goals I set recently and one of them is to finish things I've started, going forward. I'm also putting a lot more time and care into my posts and comments on here which means I'm more active than ever and am getting to know so many of you on a much deeper level. 🧡
Anyway! This week's blog homework really made me think and change my answer a number of times! The question was:
"What's one thing someone can do that instantly makes them more attractive to you?"
Honestly? I've always gone for looks and physical appearance to begin with - but it always spans deeper than that. Looks are really not everything and just because a guy has long hair or a girl has pretty eyes (both big pluses for me 🤭) doesn't mean they're instant marriage material, or instantly attractive. They need to have more than that.
So I thought a little more. Positivity. I can't tell you how much of an impact this has on me. You've seen my blogs! I can be instantly drawn to someone who is confident, has a good outlook on life, has their shit together and glows with positive vibes. And I believe it all stems from a positive mindset. Same thing with kindness - of course if someone is attentive, caring and shows kindness to me I'm all their's! But I still think that comes from that positive mindset.
Nobody has the strong desire to be with someone who isn't driven, doesn't care about others or has forgotten to love themself first. Then I got to thinking even more - it's the whole love yourself thing, isn't it? ! It all started making sense!
If you can't love yourself, then you can't possibly love others in a truly healthy way, can you? I never really believed in that, but after thinking about this and trying to analyse previous failed relationships, the only time it really worked was when both my partner and I were content with ourselves first. If I had been hurt by someone and jumped into a relationship with someone else soon after, I realised that my previous relationship troubles would creep in much quicker and insecurities would affect my new relationships, unnecessarily. When I'd let more time pass, I wouldn't have necessarily forgotten past heartaches, but I would be in a much better place to start fresh and give someone the chance they deserved, without bringing any baggage into the new relationship.
So for me, the one thing someone can do that instantly makes them more attractive to me is have and actively practice self-love. In turn, it has a positive knock on effect with everything else. It really is that simple! 🧡
Thank you for reading my loves, let me know what you think too - do you agree/disagree? Do you have any other suggestions? I'd love to hear your thoughts 😊
@missy @rambo
(this pic was taken at the SGUK shootfest by @loxleyheart - we'll soon have a set to share with you too!)
