Mike and I talked about our future. We are both happy with where we are right now, but we want something different down the road. Who knows when, and who knows if we will be together. I know that I don't want anyone else. He told me that he won't "settle" for anything less than what he really wants, and that he wants to be wtih me. However, we just don't know where we are going....if we are going in the same direction or if we are going to grow apart. I've never been in the situation where I've had to think about my future in the terms of including someone else, and neither has he. Is it normal for us to not know where we are going with our relationship? It kind of scares the hell out of me, but I am so happy with him, I don't care.
When we were talking Mike kept telling me "This shoudln't scare you, but....." "I know this will scare you...." "Don't be scared, but......" We are both so head strong, but at the same time fickle and impulsive. We make life changing decisions in little to no time. Like dropping out of college, in one week I decided and was gone. The last time he moved, he did it in three days. He dropped out of college after one semester. I saw a car on E-Bay, even though mine is still great, I bought it the next day, because I wantted it. We are really immature, and selfish too. We give everything of ourselves, but when we earn money, we think that we need to spend it right away on ourselves.....lol
I don't know. Is it okay that we don't know what is going to happen? We don't know where we are going? Or should we know? We haven't been together all that long, six months, a little over a month we were apart because he thought he might want to be with someone else (yeah, impulsive). I'm scared, but I'm a little relieved that we are at the same place and we are thinking about the future.
I don't know, should we know where we are going at this point, or just keep taking it one day at a time and let the wind blow us where it may? I don't know how it should feel when we need to "take the next step", whatever that is. I guess I'm worried that I should know, and since I'm not sure, that maybe we aren't right for eachother. He feels the same way. I mean, we are really happy together, and we just seem to fit so well together. He gets me better than anyone else, and he makes me more me. I really want to be with him, but should we know where we are going?
Please, any advise, I need it. Someone with some experience, please tell me what you think?
When we were talking Mike kept telling me "This shoudln't scare you, but....." "I know this will scare you...." "Don't be scared, but......" We are both so head strong, but at the same time fickle and impulsive. We make life changing decisions in little to no time. Like dropping out of college, in one week I decided and was gone. The last time he moved, he did it in three days. He dropped out of college after one semester. I saw a car on E-Bay, even though mine is still great, I bought it the next day, because I wantted it. We are really immature, and selfish too. We give everything of ourselves, but when we earn money, we think that we need to spend it right away on ourselves.....lol
I don't know. Is it okay that we don't know what is going to happen? We don't know where we are going? Or should we know? We haven't been together all that long, six months, a little over a month we were apart because he thought he might want to be with someone else (yeah, impulsive). I'm scared, but I'm a little relieved that we are at the same place and we are thinking about the future.
I don't know, should we know where we are going at this point, or just keep taking it one day at a time and let the wind blow us where it may? I don't know how it should feel when we need to "take the next step", whatever that is. I guess I'm worried that I should know, and since I'm not sure, that maybe we aren't right for eachother. He feels the same way. I mean, we are really happy together, and we just seem to fit so well together. He gets me better than anyone else, and he makes me more me. I really want to be with him, but should we know where we are going?
Please, any advise, I need it. Someone with some experience, please tell me what you think?
Life isn't fair, no matter how hard you try to make it. You are still very young and you have no idea what planning for the future is yet......even with someone else. Ride the wave of Happiness while it lasts; I hope it lasts forever, but time is your enemy. As you grow older, both of you will change and the 2 of you will develop different tastes and attitudes. Money and Sex are the 2 things that break up most relationships. I know what you are thinking......our sex life is great, but will it always be? Will he want something else or someone else (the same goes for you)? Money and credit are everything in this day and age. Plus saving for retirement Should start now!!! (I have 26 years until my own retirement and I plan on having somewhere between 1 to 5 million is cash and assets by that time......I started very early
Is the stinging over with?
I hope I helped, but so many couples rush into things they have no idea what they are getting into......before it is too late. Take time in getting to know one other......like years. That is my best advise!!!
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Welcome to "the embalming room". As to your blog, an old Buddhist parable states "Nothing of any real value is gained lacking pain, sweat, and agony".