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Alright I have this matter that I want to ask advice from the intelligent people of SG.

Well to make it as short as possible, without going into great detail. My older brother is ignoring me because of what I am not sure about. I have an idea that it might be because I disowned our grandparents. (they told me they didn't love me anymore or really wanted to be apart of my life) All the stuff with my grandparents happend 6 years ago. It was only recently when my grandma died that he really started to show this anger toward me. I have been ignoring him and the situation but with the holidays coming I don't think I will be able to ignore it much longer. I am about ready to explode at him and if I do that, I will say way too much that doesn't really need to be said. Plus I have never been close to my brother due to our parents getting a divorce. I lived with our alcoholic mother and they lived with our selfish father.

I guess he has said some really rude statements along the lines of why is she here or she is just going to cause trouble. All this was said to my other brother at my grandma's funeral. The situation with my grandparents had improved a bit. They had apologized for what they had said and wanted there to be some sort of relationship started up again. My grandma got sick and died because of CHF (congestive heart failure) not soon after the apology. So her death was a bit of a shock and kind of hit me hard.

I guess what I need to know is....how would you all handle it or say something? I know the holidays are not the time to do this but I need some sort of release before this all happens and I do some things I will regret.

Any advice, words of encouragement or hugs that could be sent my way would be much appreciated. Thanks so much.

I hope all is well with the many people out there.
Love to all