TRUTH: Conformity to fact or actuality; Sincerity; integrity.
TRUST: Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing
LOYALTY (fidelity): Faithfulness to obligations, duties, or observances. Faithful to a person, ideal, custom, cause, or duty.
HONOR: High respect, as that shown for special merit; Good name; reputation.
"Trust takes years to COMPLETELY build, and only seconds to COMPLETELY destroy."
Something I didn't' take seriously when I was younger but I do now. I was once in a frame of mind that if I could bullshit my way through relationships and life; I could make it what I wanted it to be and I would be happy. But I think the stress of having to figure out what I said when I said it. It was way too much stress. It really was. I realized at one point that the more honest I am; the happier and freer I feel. Like a weight lifted off my chest.
I am a different person than I was 5-6 years ago in regards to relationships. And now I must be getting either old or tarnished with self-imposed values; because I see my friends so things that I disapprove of. Which bother me a great deal. When it comes to relationships and or personal, they seem to be false to themselves. They are either trying to find themselves; self inflate their own ego, give in to selfishness or greed, or feed their male need.
Would you LIE to someone you loved? Would you LIE to someone you think you're in love with? Would you LIE to protect your self from repercussions from your loved one cause telling the truth would get you in trouble and you would feel uncomfortable? If that is the case, what value do you put on trust of their reaction, what value do you put on your OWN trust and loyalty to them.
People would be surprised how they can get exactly what they want; and all the same things they would get lying by telling the truth. I am talking about in the END. Sure I don't believe relationships last forever. And I am not saying that I am without error. I don't normally care if I see Joe Schmoe lying to John Doe. It is the direction of the lie.
I am picky at who I call a friend and an acquaintance. I have very few friends, and hundreds of acquaintances. I don't care of acquaintances lie cheat or do what ever to their partner or me for that matter. I will just push them away. BUT a FRIEND should NEVER do that to another friend. That will hurt and taint your image to them even more so. To me I am loyal to my friends, as much as I can be at the time while giving time to myself and other friends. But to make up even the smallest lies will destroy trust.
To lie to someone you say you love lets other people know you are capable of that. (Like your friend who you should have as much care for) To take or betray any of that is a seriously friendship threatening thing to me. Having tolerance for other people's values, I make excuses for them most of the time because I give them a benefit of the doubt.
But People are selfish by nature, some in one way, others in other ways. But it boils down to their needs and wants, and if their needs and wants outweigh their loyalties to their friends and or loved ones then they have to go.
I am currently evaluating all the stuff I have been seeing lately and trying to determine what I should do. As of late have I been feeling uncomfortable about what my friends are doing and I am not sure how to take it. In my mind it is a serious thing. And I hate feeling weird in certain situations. I am going to start to vocalize my feelings more so people understand where I stand.
TRUST: Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing
LOYALTY (fidelity): Faithfulness to obligations, duties, or observances. Faithful to a person, ideal, custom, cause, or duty.
HONOR: High respect, as that shown for special merit; Good name; reputation.
"Trust takes years to COMPLETELY build, and only seconds to COMPLETELY destroy."
Something I didn't' take seriously when I was younger but I do now. I was once in a frame of mind that if I could bullshit my way through relationships and life; I could make it what I wanted it to be and I would be happy. But I think the stress of having to figure out what I said when I said it. It was way too much stress. It really was. I realized at one point that the more honest I am; the happier and freer I feel. Like a weight lifted off my chest.
I am a different person than I was 5-6 years ago in regards to relationships. And now I must be getting either old or tarnished with self-imposed values; because I see my friends so things that I disapprove of. Which bother me a great deal. When it comes to relationships and or personal, they seem to be false to themselves. They are either trying to find themselves; self inflate their own ego, give in to selfishness or greed, or feed their male need.
Would you LIE to someone you loved? Would you LIE to someone you think you're in love with? Would you LIE to protect your self from repercussions from your loved one cause telling the truth would get you in trouble and you would feel uncomfortable? If that is the case, what value do you put on trust of their reaction, what value do you put on your OWN trust and loyalty to them.
People would be surprised how they can get exactly what they want; and all the same things they would get lying by telling the truth. I am talking about in the END. Sure I don't believe relationships last forever. And I am not saying that I am without error. I don't normally care if I see Joe Schmoe lying to John Doe. It is the direction of the lie.
I am picky at who I call a friend and an acquaintance. I have very few friends, and hundreds of acquaintances. I don't care of acquaintances lie cheat or do what ever to their partner or me for that matter. I will just push them away. BUT a FRIEND should NEVER do that to another friend. That will hurt and taint your image to them even more so. To me I am loyal to my friends, as much as I can be at the time while giving time to myself and other friends. But to make up even the smallest lies will destroy trust.
To lie to someone you say you love lets other people know you are capable of that. (Like your friend who you should have as much care for) To take or betray any of that is a seriously friendship threatening thing to me. Having tolerance for other people's values, I make excuses for them most of the time because I give them a benefit of the doubt.
But People are selfish by nature, some in one way, others in other ways. But it boils down to their needs and wants, and if their needs and wants outweigh their loyalties to their friends and or loved ones then they have to go.
I am currently evaluating all the stuff I have been seeing lately and trying to determine what I should do. As of late have I been feeling uncomfortable about what my friends are doing and I am not sure how to take it. In my mind it is a serious thing. And I hate feeling weird in certain situations. I am going to start to vocalize my feelings more so people understand where I stand.