My best friend emailed me to say that she got engaged yesterday and wants me to be in her wedding in December. 
I can't stand her fiance. He was supposed to propose to her over a year ago but kept her waiting with stupid excuses and ever stupider accusations of infidelity. Meanwhile, she has been taking care of his child by another woman as if the baby is her own, his family loves her dearly, and she always turns a blind eye and deaf ear to his mistreatment of her.
The fool even had the nerve to tell her that since I hadn't been in contact with her for a while I didn't want anything to do with her. WTF?! The thing is, she is 26 but as far as marriage is concerned she is going in with the same naive thinking that I went into it with - in time, things will change, he (or I) will change - which isn't necessarily the case.
But, like me, she is very stubborn.
And not one to back down once she decides to do something. This guy, I haven't seen since before I came to Germany and on my visits to the States she knew better than to bring him with her. She knows I have no love for him any longer. I mean, good Lord, if I were him I would've put a ring on her finger as soon as possible. She's wonderful to him despite all the crap he does and he knows he has her to where she will keep on coming back/keep on waiting for him because she loves him and is wrapped up completely in him.
This is what she wants and she is an adult but its going to be hard for me to be happy for her like I should. I think shes under the false impression that after he marries her will begin to treat her better. But, I pray that is the case even though part of me realizes that it most likely won't be.
Her family doesn't like him, I don't like him, and my mother doesn't like him, but love doesn't see anybody else, of course. This is something she has to do, but thats my girl. Thats my sister, she doesn't need the blood to tie us, our friendship does it much better. I don't want her to marry some creep jerk-off that will try to alienate her from her friends and family and then make her feel that that ring makes her legally bound to listen to him. They are apart of the same religion I used to be so divorce can only be given in the case of adultery, for everything else seperation can be had but since its not divorce, no other relationship or sexual acts can be had with anyone else.
I know he's going to use that against her.
She knows how I feel about him and she knows that I love her dearly. I can't not be in her wedding because it would hurt her too much but fuck...my new name is Denial. But if that stupid, motherfucking piece of shit ever lays a finger on her I'll come snatch her away so quick he won't know what happened. I need to remember to get her brothers (who are really her cousins but she calls them brothers) numbers so if something does happen I can give them a call and they can handle him.
I'm really not a violent person but she's a part of my heart and it hurts that I can see where she's walking but her rose-colored glasses blind her. But, I do pray, that he proves me (and everyone else) wrong.
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I spoke to my mother last night and she told me my 16 yr old pregnant niece got a call from the sister of one of the guys she is possibly pregnant by to tell her that he is HIV positive.
My niece was tested and is negative but I hope she'll go back in six months to re-test, just in case.
Its not until you get older that you wonder why you were in such a rush to grow up. My niece threw away her innocence and childhood (granted there are other problems that go along with this story) but that is the only time when responsibilties aren't weighing you down. When you can care only for yourself and nothing is wrong with that.
There's nothing wrong with being a child when you are a child. I still hold on to some of my childhood ways because the idea of being a crotchety adult is scary.
I can't stand her fiance. He was supposed to propose to her over a year ago but kept her waiting with stupid excuses and ever stupider accusations of infidelity. Meanwhile, she has been taking care of his child by another woman as if the baby is her own, his family loves her dearly, and she always turns a blind eye and deaf ear to his mistreatment of her.
The fool even had the nerve to tell her that since I hadn't been in contact with her for a while I didn't want anything to do with her. WTF?! The thing is, she is 26 but as far as marriage is concerned she is going in with the same naive thinking that I went into it with - in time, things will change, he (or I) will change - which isn't necessarily the case.
But, like me, she is very stubborn.
And not one to back down once she decides to do something. This guy, I haven't seen since before I came to Germany and on my visits to the States she knew better than to bring him with her. She knows I have no love for him any longer. I mean, good Lord, if I were him I would've put a ring on her finger as soon as possible. She's wonderful to him despite all the crap he does and he knows he has her to where she will keep on coming back/keep on waiting for him because she loves him and is wrapped up completely in him.
This is what she wants and she is an adult but its going to be hard for me to be happy for her like I should. I think shes under the false impression that after he marries her will begin to treat her better. But, I pray that is the case even though part of me realizes that it most likely won't be.
Her family doesn't like him, I don't like him, and my mother doesn't like him, but love doesn't see anybody else, of course. This is something she has to do, but thats my girl. Thats my sister, she doesn't need the blood to tie us, our friendship does it much better. I don't want her to marry some creep jerk-off that will try to alienate her from her friends and family and then make her feel that that ring makes her legally bound to listen to him. They are apart of the same religion I used to be so divorce can only be given in the case of adultery, for everything else seperation can be had but since its not divorce, no other relationship or sexual acts can be had with anyone else.
I know he's going to use that against her.
She knows how I feel about him and she knows that I love her dearly. I can't not be in her wedding because it would hurt her too much but fuck...my new name is Denial. But if that stupid, motherfucking piece of shit ever lays a finger on her I'll come snatch her away so quick he won't know what happened. I need to remember to get her brothers (who are really her cousins but she calls them brothers) numbers so if something does happen I can give them a call and they can handle him.
I'm really not a violent person but she's a part of my heart and it hurts that I can see where she's walking but her rose-colored glasses blind her. But, I do pray, that he proves me (and everyone else) wrong.
____________________________
I spoke to my mother last night and she told me my 16 yr old pregnant niece got a call from the sister of one of the guys she is possibly pregnant by to tell her that he is HIV positive.
My niece was tested and is negative but I hope she'll go back in six months to re-test, just in case.
Its not until you get older that you wonder why you were in such a rush to grow up. My niece threw away her innocence and childhood (granted there are other problems that go along with this story) but that is the only time when responsibilties aren't weighing you down. When you can care only for yourself and nothing is wrong with that.
There's nothing wrong with being a child when you are a child. I still hold on to some of my childhood ways because the idea of being a crotchety adult is scary.