I haven't been on as much as I'd like. I'm in the middle of trying to transfer to college in NC and make arrangements for moving back to NC and the Las Vegas trip my husband wants to take.
We had been planning to have his mother watch the baby but he decides last minute that he doesn't think she'll do it (he hasn't even asked, mind you) so he had me ask my mother yesterday. My mother is now upset because it is so last minute and she works full-time and goes to college part-time so she hardly has anytime to make plans to find someone she trusts to babysit.
My mother told me that I have to make him call and ask his mother because his mother should have the chance to say yes or no and do the 'grandmother' thing just like her. I agree. She's already watched the baby for us when we went to Myrtle Beach plus the baby and I will be living with my parents so thats additional burden/blessing that his mother won't have to deal with.
My only problem with his mother is that she smokes and his family is odd in how they won't go out of their way for one another. His friend is more likely to help us out of a crunch than his sister or mother.
It just makes things more difficult for my mother because she is already dealing with so much including having my pregnant 16 yr old niece for the summer, dealing with my sister's avoidance of my niece, her and Daddy's continuous marriage drama, and now finding some way to watch the baby for a week when she'll have just started school and work (shes a teacher) a couple of weeks before.
But she told me if his mother absolutely can't do it, she'll find a way. It just doesn't set well with me that my mother will do more for Michael than his own mother, esp. considering he's going to Iraq.
Grr, he gets on my nerves with this last minute crap! I've been asking him for months to call his freakin mother about this. Yet, the fact that he realizes that my mother will bail us out if we are in a tough situation makes me feel good. He needs to know that no matter what happens btwn us Mommy will still help him out b/c to her he's apart of the family now.
The tentative schedule: (if his mother watches the baby)
Germany to Michigan - Sep. 6th
Michigan to Las Vegas - Sep. 11-16th (leaving the baby with his mother)
Las Vegas to Michigan - Sep. 16th (to pick up the baby)
Michigan to NC - Sep. 16th
The tentative schedule: (if my mother watches the baby)
Germany to Michigan - Sep. 6th
Michigan to NC - Sep. 11th (leaving the baby with my mother)
NC to Las Vegas - Sep. 12-16th
Las Vegas to NC - Sep. 16th(or 17th, depending on flights)
My husband returns to Germany on Sep. 18th and the baby and I will remain in NC.
Now, I still have to make appointments for all the legal matters including wills (weird
).
Time seems to be going by faster and I'm trying to play catch-up.
Oh well, time to start dinner.
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I am so mad I could (insert random yet violent threat)!
My husband came home late and I told him about needing to call his mom tonight to get an answer so that I could let my mother know ASAP if she would need to watch the baby.
Well, I nagged him for a couple of hours and then he said, "I'll call her tomorrow." WTF? My mother is talking about doing us a HUGE FAVOR and he can't spare 15 mins to call his mother?
I am so offended/hurt/insulted by his actions right now. I realize he is very tired but you don't do people trying to help you out like that...esp. my mother. My feelings right now are as if someone put down my mother to my face...ready to throw punches. You don't insult my mother and not expect to at the very least have your ears melt off from the fury of my words. That and only the children are allowed to take their own mother for granted. 
I called her and told her about the situation and she said just to let him sleep and not to start an argument but he MUST call his mother tomorrow. I told her that I'm going to make him call her after he calls his mother. Now he'll have to talk to his own mother then talk to mine and listen to whatever else she has to say to him. I told her to put it to him but I know she'll be firm yet tactful about it, darnit.
Hes been saying for weeks that his mom could do it and then at the travel agent changes his mind without even asking her?! My mother is there for him but hes not allowed to treat her like this when she has been nothing but helpful to us moreso than his own family.
Where's my green tea...I need to calm down. He should be so happy he has CQ tomorrow.
I would cut off my nose to spite my face. If he doesn't call his mother tomorrow and ask then I'm not going to Las Vegas. We will cancel the trip. We can just spend the majority of the time in Michigan with his family.
So it is written...
We had been planning to have his mother watch the baby but he decides last minute that he doesn't think she'll do it (he hasn't even asked, mind you) so he had me ask my mother yesterday. My mother is now upset because it is so last minute and she works full-time and goes to college part-time so she hardly has anytime to make plans to find someone she trusts to babysit.
My mother told me that I have to make him call and ask his mother because his mother should have the chance to say yes or no and do the 'grandmother' thing just like her. I agree. She's already watched the baby for us when we went to Myrtle Beach plus the baby and I will be living with my parents so thats additional burden/blessing that his mother won't have to deal with.
My only problem with his mother is that she smokes and his family is odd in how they won't go out of their way for one another. His friend is more likely to help us out of a crunch than his sister or mother.
It just makes things more difficult for my mother because she is already dealing with so much including having my pregnant 16 yr old niece for the summer, dealing with my sister's avoidance of my niece, her and Daddy's continuous marriage drama, and now finding some way to watch the baby for a week when she'll have just started school and work (shes a teacher) a couple of weeks before.
But she told me if his mother absolutely can't do it, she'll find a way. It just doesn't set well with me that my mother will do more for Michael than his own mother, esp. considering he's going to Iraq.
Grr, he gets on my nerves with this last minute crap! I've been asking him for months to call his freakin mother about this. Yet, the fact that he realizes that my mother will bail us out if we are in a tough situation makes me feel good. He needs to know that no matter what happens btwn us Mommy will still help him out b/c to her he's apart of the family now.
The tentative schedule: (if his mother watches the baby)
Germany to Michigan - Sep. 6th
Michigan to Las Vegas - Sep. 11-16th (leaving the baby with his mother)
Las Vegas to Michigan - Sep. 16th (to pick up the baby)
Michigan to NC - Sep. 16th
The tentative schedule: (if my mother watches the baby)
Germany to Michigan - Sep. 6th
Michigan to NC - Sep. 11th (leaving the baby with my mother)
NC to Las Vegas - Sep. 12-16th
Las Vegas to NC - Sep. 16th(or 17th, depending on flights)
My husband returns to Germany on Sep. 18th and the baby and I will remain in NC.
Now, I still have to make appointments for all the legal matters including wills (weird
).
Time seems to be going by faster and I'm trying to play catch-up.
Oh well, time to start dinner.
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I am so mad I could (insert random yet violent threat)!
My husband came home late and I told him about needing to call his mom tonight to get an answer so that I could let my mother know ASAP if she would need to watch the baby.
Well, I nagged him for a couple of hours and then he said, "I'll call her tomorrow." WTF? My mother is talking about doing us a HUGE FAVOR and he can't spare 15 mins to call his mother?
I am so offended/hurt/insulted by his actions right now. I realize he is very tired but you don't do people trying to help you out like that...esp. my mother. My feelings right now are as if someone put down my mother to my face...ready to throw punches. You don't insult my mother and not expect to at the very least have your ears melt off from the fury of my words. That and only the children are allowed to take their own mother for granted.
I called her and told her about the situation and she said just to let him sleep and not to start an argument but he MUST call his mother tomorrow. I told her that I'm going to make him call her after he calls his mother. Now he'll have to talk to his own mother then talk to mine and listen to whatever else she has to say to him. I told her to put it to him but I know she'll be firm yet tactful about it, darnit.
Hes been saying for weeks that his mom could do it and then at the travel agent changes his mind without even asking her?! My mother is there for him but hes not allowed to treat her like this when she has been nothing but helpful to us moreso than his own family.
Where's my green tea...I need to calm down. He should be so happy he has CQ tomorrow.
I would cut off my nose to spite my face. If he doesn't call his mother tomorrow and ask then I'm not going to Las Vegas. We will cancel the trip. We can just spend the majority of the time in Michigan with his family.
So it is written...
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delco:
sounds like he is afraid to ask his mom all men become little boys when it comes to there moms.
thedarkness:
When I saw her, the first thing that came to mind is that you would like that. I also wanted her picture.