During my nightly insomniac waking I went to check on the baby and she was burning up when I touched her. So I woke the husband and he agreed that she was very hot to him as well. She had a temp of 102F and it felt as if my heart would seize if she was seriously ill. Feeling like a child again, I called my mother asking whether or not the baby's temp was high enough for the hospital and what to do for her other than give infant tylenol.
We didn't take her to the hospital and by the time the next dosage time came, her fever was gone. Thankfully! Everytime there's a possibility of her being sick it just shakes my core. She was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck twice, so she was blue, and immediately doctors wisked her away. Following that she spent the first 10 days of her life in an incubator in NICU fighting a lung infection. So she's no stranger to illness but she's been as healthy as she can be ever since. *knocks on wood* We want to keep it that way as much as possible.
This is also the weekend that the husband and I were supposed to go to Hotel Eisenhut in Rothenburg. It's beautiful! but the couple we were going with had to leave because the husband's father passed Thurs. night. They left this morning for the States and his wife (7 mos pregnant) and 5 1/2 yr old daughter are going to remain in the States. The army only gave him 10 days to go home, mourn and take care of business. And with him being the eldest, adult sibling I imagine he wants to take care of as much as possible so his mother will not be burdened. 10 days!
Oh, but the husband and I wouldn't have been able to go anyway b/c even though he was told he'd be able to drive up Friday night, they kept him working until 8pm and told him they'd also need him to work today. Yeah, so we haven't been able to go to any marriage retreats b/c he either is held in work or is already scheduled to work and they won't allow him the time. I don't know why some part of me still holds on to the idea that somebody somewhere in the chain of command may actually care about him and his family as actual people. He originally was supposed to have CQ (24 hour duty) yesterday and go out into the field to shoot live rounds today. Who in their right mind would keep someone up for 24 hours then have them shoot guns? He has CQ memorial day weekend so its not a 4 day for us. And at the beginning of next month he's supposed to go out into the field again for about 4 or 5 days then go to some school from the 12th to the 24th which means he'll essentially be gone all next month. Things are just going to get worse from this point on but we barely see him now as it is, the baby usually cries when he tries to hold her b/c she has to get used to him being around again. And despite them knowing he has a family that doesn't see him and a marriage that is very much on the rocks they can't even give him a weekend to go to a marriage retreat that could possibly help his marriage and give him family time?
When the pull stuff like giving a person 10 days to grieve over a parent and take care of legal necessities and/or making them feel like they and their families aren't of any importance to the chain of command, how do they think these soldiers are going to feel when they're in Iraq?! Going to Iraq lowers morale as it is but feeling as if the organization you're apart of doesn't even care about your family's needs or the soldier's need for their support then its no wonder some feel that taking their life is the only answer.
However, as bad as I feel for my husband, I feel somewhat worse for our friend. When he comes back he will still be grieving for his father and won't have the comfort or support of his preg. wife or child either since she'll be staying in the States. We've already discussed pretty much letting him come over as much as possible and trying to include him in whatever we decide to do (when we get the chance). I guess he'll also be able to help me and the baby out when my husband is at that school too. I just hate seeing things like that happen to people. I can't imagine how he must feel and I dread the day when I will understand.
I talked with my mother and I did alot of thinking. The issues I have still remain but there's no way my husband and I can work on them seriously until he gets back from Iraq. My mother's words do sway me but the thing she said that really got my attention was that if I leave a marriage I should make sure I've done everything and given 110 percent as far as trying to make it work, before walking away. She said, otherwise it isn't fair to my husband, myself, or our child. I've felt that I've been pretty much set on leaving but in this situation my husband and I don't really have the chance we need to go to a good counselor and work on our friendship/communication/relationship with all the time and effort that should be devoted to it.
I want to do the right thing and be fair to him. Perhaps we will find a way to make this work, perhaps not, either way I want to know that I've given my all.
We didn't take her to the hospital and by the time the next dosage time came, her fever was gone. Thankfully! Everytime there's a possibility of her being sick it just shakes my core. She was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck twice, so she was blue, and immediately doctors wisked her away. Following that she spent the first 10 days of her life in an incubator in NICU fighting a lung infection. So she's no stranger to illness but she's been as healthy as she can be ever since. *knocks on wood* We want to keep it that way as much as possible.
This is also the weekend that the husband and I were supposed to go to Hotel Eisenhut in Rothenburg. It's beautiful! but the couple we were going with had to leave because the husband's father passed Thurs. night. They left this morning for the States and his wife (7 mos pregnant) and 5 1/2 yr old daughter are going to remain in the States. The army only gave him 10 days to go home, mourn and take care of business. And with him being the eldest, adult sibling I imagine he wants to take care of as much as possible so his mother will not be burdened. 10 days!
Oh, but the husband and I wouldn't have been able to go anyway b/c even though he was told he'd be able to drive up Friday night, they kept him working until 8pm and told him they'd also need him to work today. Yeah, so we haven't been able to go to any marriage retreats b/c he either is held in work or is already scheduled to work and they won't allow him the time. I don't know why some part of me still holds on to the idea that somebody somewhere in the chain of command may actually care about him and his family as actual people. He originally was supposed to have CQ (24 hour duty) yesterday and go out into the field to shoot live rounds today. Who in their right mind would keep someone up for 24 hours then have them shoot guns? He has CQ memorial day weekend so its not a 4 day for us. And at the beginning of next month he's supposed to go out into the field again for about 4 or 5 days then go to some school from the 12th to the 24th which means he'll essentially be gone all next month. Things are just going to get worse from this point on but we barely see him now as it is, the baby usually cries when he tries to hold her b/c she has to get used to him being around again. And despite them knowing he has a family that doesn't see him and a marriage that is very much on the rocks they can't even give him a weekend to go to a marriage retreat that could possibly help his marriage and give him family time?
When the pull stuff like giving a person 10 days to grieve over a parent and take care of legal necessities and/or making them feel like they and their families aren't of any importance to the chain of command, how do they think these soldiers are going to feel when they're in Iraq?! Going to Iraq lowers morale as it is but feeling as if the organization you're apart of doesn't even care about your family's needs or the soldier's need for their support then its no wonder some feel that taking their life is the only answer.
However, as bad as I feel for my husband, I feel somewhat worse for our friend. When he comes back he will still be grieving for his father and won't have the comfort or support of his preg. wife or child either since she'll be staying in the States. We've already discussed pretty much letting him come over as much as possible and trying to include him in whatever we decide to do (when we get the chance). I guess he'll also be able to help me and the baby out when my husband is at that school too. I just hate seeing things like that happen to people. I can't imagine how he must feel and I dread the day when I will understand.
I talked with my mother and I did alot of thinking. The issues I have still remain but there's no way my husband and I can work on them seriously until he gets back from Iraq. My mother's words do sway me but the thing she said that really got my attention was that if I leave a marriage I should make sure I've done everything and given 110 percent as far as trying to make it work, before walking away. She said, otherwise it isn't fair to my husband, myself, or our child. I've felt that I've been pretty much set on leaving but in this situation my husband and I don't really have the chance we need to go to a good counselor and work on our friendship/communication/relationship with all the time and effort that should be devoted to it.
I want to do the right thing and be fair to him. Perhaps we will find a way to make this work, perhaps not, either way I want to know that I've given my all.
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Or would he just get an excuse from the base Doctor?
Hope everyone is feeling better soon; I know what it means to have a house full of sick people.