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How to helm a rock band---101.


Okay, here's a post that will ring true to many musicians and bandleaders out there.

Okay,I'm not or do not equal myself to be a bandleader, however that is the position that was put into place for me.

I'm not a dictator; I'm not a control freak. far from it. I'm a control freak in the sense that if you give me control; I'll freak out and give it to someone else.


However, there wasn't anyone to give control to. There was just me and I knew I could keep this band together sincerely by the sincere need to love the others that play music with me.

That's it. I love em. I hate them. It's true. they piss me off alot of times,they agree to things I would never agree to, they act like perhaps I would act; If I wasn't me.

My band members; I love them more than my family. Because, they re family to me. And I would do anything to help them out, and get them out of whaatever jam they got themselves into.....because I love them.
That's all.

What's wrong with bands these days? They don;t fuckng love each other, or the love ran out, and I admire that statement in band slike soundgarden and so forth, they lost the love, they lost the spark that drove them, and they admitted it.

It's hard to form a band, because, besides all the contracts and so forth you have to sign, you have to give of yourself on a continuous basisl; creatively, personally, and perhaps, spiritually.

Back in my hometown of KC, Missouri, I couldn't find a band that wanted me, I had to play bass guitar instead of my first love; guitar.

I've seen meth and shit run my old friends and dear acquaintainces down, and I hate that......because I understand where they come from, because I've come from that, living in a trailer; never going anywhere, living off AC/DC, meth and vitamins, I've been there.

It makes me sad, because I know one can get past that, of course, I still take vitamins, and I don't speak ill of people who do meth, because I would be a stupid iidiot hypocrite if I did, I speak from a perspective of.....

I've lost most of my friends to drugs and lost hopes, and I'd be nearly alone if I hadn't made other friends.

But, fuck you; I'm loyal.

If you offer me your friendship; I won't tie it down easily. Because, I'm just like that.

I'm one of these "true friends" in the sense that I won't judge you ever; if you want to take a meth binge on my clock, go for it, but I'll be there to help you down, and I dont claim to be a psychiatrist or what not.....

But, I love all my people I've come to know aqnd love; and fuck anyone who says otherwise.
Fuck you, I love them. They love me. That's all.

I'm not the most conversationally upright guy but I know that I stick by my friends.....and I don't care what anyone else says, because I stick by them, I love them.......because they helped me......and GODAMN it I will help them if I can.