hi.
sometimes i ask openly honest questions. not fiendishly honest...but case in point....
i was in the bar of a really nice hotel in Amsterdam, and i ended up chatting with a really beautiful lady from London, she was gorgeous.
It seems to me that really formative times in my life that radically change my view or outlook on life...i end up missing the details by being ridiculously drunk or on drugs or something....anyways--
so, i cannot recall how we came to start chatting, but we did and i switched the subject to a topic that just blurted out .
I said...."you know....sometimes i fucking hate it when i can't fucking think of anything to say when i'm with someone. Like, I know there are many a time when i can be witty and funny and charming, but it doesn't happen all the time. I hate being in that moment where I just honestly don't know/have anything to say. Have you ever had that happen?"
And she nodded. Yes, lots of times.
i felt totally relieved at that point honestly. thank god, if a girl of her caliber can experience the same feeling i feel lots of times....then....perhaps i can not stress over it as much.
And, then....BAM! ....epiphany central...hitting you right between the eyes.
being relaxed in front of people...not just gorgeous ladies. anyone really. that can change things.
case in point---
I almost got mugged a few months ago.
I was walking around the tenderloin area in San Francisco around 4am. Trying to catch a muni to get to work.
I knew this guy was gonna try something though, I saw him a whole block ahead of time.
I figured well...wtf....I seriously didn't have anything of value on me at the time...except for my tupperware container of spaghetti for lunch.
sure enough, he quickly stepped right in front of me and said "look i dont want to hurt nobody, just give me everything you got and it's cool."
I decided to take this relaxed idea further. So, I got more relaxed. oddly enough.
i asked him very mildly. what do you need?
and he looked at me kind of startled for a second. oops! haha. he then composed himself and said, he was desperate and hungry and he needs it now.
I nodded. and repeated what he said. you are desperate. and you are hungry. then i handed him my tupperware of spaghetti.
he looked at it. i looked at him and smiled. i have nothing but this. if you are hungry, eat it.
ill never forget the look on his face. i almost wanted to laugh, but i didn't.
i just kept walking on.
that incident was instructive to me for some reason, how...you don't really have to panic. a person who has nothing has nothing to lose.
and truth be told...i had 30 bucks in my pocket and a credit card and a muni pass. but i didnt think about that.
i thought about being relaxed. i dunno, it was a really instructive moment for me. being completely calm and collected in potentially dangerous or seemingly dangerous or overwhelming circumstances can pay off big time. that's all.
take care.
--kris
openchakra.com
sometimes i ask openly honest questions. not fiendishly honest...but case in point....
i was in the bar of a really nice hotel in Amsterdam, and i ended up chatting with a really beautiful lady from London, she was gorgeous.
It seems to me that really formative times in my life that radically change my view or outlook on life...i end up missing the details by being ridiculously drunk or on drugs or something....anyways--
so, i cannot recall how we came to start chatting, but we did and i switched the subject to a topic that just blurted out .
I said...."you know....sometimes i fucking hate it when i can't fucking think of anything to say when i'm with someone. Like, I know there are many a time when i can be witty and funny and charming, but it doesn't happen all the time. I hate being in that moment where I just honestly don't know/have anything to say. Have you ever had that happen?"
And she nodded. Yes, lots of times.
i felt totally relieved at that point honestly. thank god, if a girl of her caliber can experience the same feeling i feel lots of times....then....perhaps i can not stress over it as much.
And, then....BAM! ....epiphany central...hitting you right between the eyes.
being relaxed in front of people...not just gorgeous ladies. anyone really. that can change things.
case in point---
I almost got mugged a few months ago.
I was walking around the tenderloin area in San Francisco around 4am. Trying to catch a muni to get to work.
I knew this guy was gonna try something though, I saw him a whole block ahead of time.
I figured well...wtf....I seriously didn't have anything of value on me at the time...except for my tupperware container of spaghetti for lunch.
sure enough, he quickly stepped right in front of me and said "look i dont want to hurt nobody, just give me everything you got and it's cool."
I decided to take this relaxed idea further. So, I got more relaxed. oddly enough.
i asked him very mildly. what do you need?
and he looked at me kind of startled for a second. oops! haha. he then composed himself and said, he was desperate and hungry and he needs it now.
I nodded. and repeated what he said. you are desperate. and you are hungry. then i handed him my tupperware of spaghetti.
he looked at it. i looked at him and smiled. i have nothing but this. if you are hungry, eat it.
ill never forget the look on his face. i almost wanted to laugh, but i didn't.
i just kept walking on.
that incident was instructive to me for some reason, how...you don't really have to panic. a person who has nothing has nothing to lose.
and truth be told...i had 30 bucks in my pocket and a credit card and a muni pass. but i didnt think about that.
i thought about being relaxed. i dunno, it was a really instructive moment for me. being completely calm and collected in potentially dangerous or seemingly dangerous or overwhelming circumstances can pay off big time. that's all.
take care.
--kris
openchakra.com