that was a temp post.. i had to get that shit out.. for all of you whom gave me support thanks not only for taking the time to read my lengthy and rather negative post which im sure was at the very least entertaining.. and for the advice part.. since i gernerally disagree with the first part of your advice seeing as i wasnt upset about not going out there till we can afford it but the impossible structures and rules for me to be able to go out there again. the second half i thought was pure brilliance. thank you.. you are right.. i need to have my own balance that i can maintain at least better than i have been these few days.. i got used to having everything go smoothly and forgot how to deal with these jolts. thanks again for pointing that out.
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Does he make enough money to be able to afford to bankroll you flying to Texas and any associated expenses of your absense and also be able to set aside an equal amount aside for his own leisure and pleasure? It sometimes doesn't seem like you see just how much you are asking of him. While the way in which he is expressing his disatisfaction, judging from what you've posted here, is assinine and non-constructive, I can understand why he would be unhappy with the situation.
He loves you, he's hurting, he's not in a rational headspace right now because you've turned his world topsy-turvy. That doesn't excuse bad behavior, but if you're going to make this situation work you're going to have to put extra effort into staying grounded...not just for him, but for yourself. Find your center and don't let either of the boys you're involved knock it off balance. If you can maintain a stability within yourself, then it will help still the turmoil in and associated with your boys.
Easier said than done, I know, but nobody said this would be easy.