my brother and his wife are expecting any time between now and the 13th of jan, and all hells breaking loose.
our parents are split up and both remarried, and now theres drama over the spouses being there. my dad doesnt feel that my moms husband should be there the day of the delivery. my mom, who i may add has only been married a little over 18 months, insists on incorporating her husband into every family function. this wouldnt be so bad, except for the fact that she took him to a family function on my dads side of the family, which in her defense she was invited to, but my dad was not, and therein lies the rub.
any hope of this situation being amicable was fucked
after that.
of course, since im the oldest, it somehow becomes my job to 'talk to your mother' about this. before i get the chance to, i hear from my sister-in-law that my mom told someone that my soon-to-be-born niece, her only other childs child, is her 'eighth grandchild,' if you count her husbands.
to this i cried bullshit.
i call mom today and try to calmly illustrate to her how that is totally fucked up. my brother and i are her only children. i am unmarried and have no kids. my brother has been married 2 years and this is their first. so just how the fuck, i ask, is his kid the "eighth grandkid"? she backpedals and tries to argue with me that she didnt mean it like that and i go off on her. i just dont get it. i just want to know how some asshole she knows less than two years and has been married to for only 18 months, how his kids rate higher than her own flesh and blood?
and she calls my father the jerk in this whole situation.
our parents are split up and both remarried, and now theres drama over the spouses being there. my dad doesnt feel that my moms husband should be there the day of the delivery. my mom, who i may add has only been married a little over 18 months, insists on incorporating her husband into every family function. this wouldnt be so bad, except for the fact that she took him to a family function on my dads side of the family, which in her defense she was invited to, but my dad was not, and therein lies the rub.
any hope of this situation being amicable was fucked
after that.
of course, since im the oldest, it somehow becomes my job to 'talk to your mother' about this. before i get the chance to, i hear from my sister-in-law that my mom told someone that my soon-to-be-born niece, her only other childs child, is her 'eighth grandchild,' if you count her husbands.
to this i cried bullshit.
i call mom today and try to calmly illustrate to her how that is totally fucked up. my brother and i are her only children. i am unmarried and have no kids. my brother has been married 2 years and this is their first. so just how the fuck, i ask, is his kid the "eighth grandkid"? she backpedals and tries to argue with me that she didnt mean it like that and i go off on her. i just dont get it. i just want to know how some asshole she knows less than two years and has been married to for only 18 months, how his kids rate higher than her own flesh and blood?
and she calls my father the jerk in this whole situation.