We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. "I'm this way because my father made me this way. I'm this way because my husband made me this way." Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.
- Camille Paglia
We livein a world of victims. Modern psychology is victim psychology. Unfortunately, everyone who truly believes she is a victim will become a perpetrator. That's the truth of it. Whether we realize it or not, the moment we admit to being a victim, we want to get someone. Victim psychology creates perpetrators large and small.
Yet there's another way. Many of us have been victimized who never became victims. We are formed by our traumas and it is up to us what we do with the traumatic events that we have experienced.
Instead of moving to victim and then perpetrating, we can admit the trauma, deal with the feelings, get the learnings, and integrate those learnings into becoming a person who is responsible for our lives.
After all, the perpetrator has to deal with what she/he did. That's none of our business. It's our business, however when we become the perpetrator.
WE CANNOT prevent traumas from happening to us. What we do with them is up to us. The choice of our response will affect the rest of our lives.
XOXO
Miss Olivia Black Suicide
