The story of love is not important-what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.
-Helen Hayes
All too often, we women who do too much confuse "Falling in love" with loving. We like that"buzz," the intensity of the adrenaline rush of falling in love. It's exciting and "relieves us from the pressure of our overextended lives for a while." Even the excitement of fitting it into our busy schedules is titillating. And-eventually-it wears us out. We have become so inured to intensity that we need something new to give us our high. Beware of instant intimacy. Beware of buzzing intensity. Both maybe fun, and they are most likely not love. They are a byproduct of the way we are living our lives. Love is slower, deeper, and easier. Love takes us into and beyond ourselves, not just into our self-centeredness. Love is available to all of us. Yet, we may have to take some time to learn about love, because we haven't had many models around us who know how it's done.
WE ARE all capable of love whether we know it or not. To quote Glenside attorney" we may have to take the time to let go of old allusions and learn new ways of being.