oklahoma

Oh man. I sent someone an email before that was really hard to send, but I knew it was the right thing to do. Without whining, going into too much detail, and boring the living crap out of anyone reading this, in summary:

I dated a guy once, he was at first charming, wonderful and nice. Then he started standing me up, and completely ignoring me. So I basically said "Alright fuck you". He did some terrible things to me in the process.

Recently, he sent me a link to a website full of photos of his new son (yes, he has a son now) and his fiance. Nice of him. But better yet, I noticed photos of them together from when I was with him... and when he was sleeping with someone I knew. Now, bear in mind, right before I said "Fuck this", he asked my best friend OUT! And then denied it. I learned he was a complete, psychotic compulsive liar.

He even told people he didn't even know me. Fine, but he still begs me for photos of my legs and feet, because he has a foot fetish.

On the website was his fiance's name, email address, and it was easy enough to find her on Facebook. Someone who I now know who knows them, told my boyfriend now that he has been with her for six years (in that time I was with him, and after he dumped me, he was with that other girl I know). They have a son and are getting married in a few days.

To know that I was with someone who was at the time with another person, and had been with her for so long, just really saddens me and makes me feel guilty even though I had no idea.

I've been cheated on plenty, and have always heard about it from someone telling me... I always appreciated it. If I had a child, I'd want to know if their father was fucking around on me.

I didn't send this message out of the desire to hurt her, or him. She seems like the nicest, most sweet person

I feel so bummed about it.

Oh well