How are you single?
I was lurking on the Dating Sucks board and came across that question. I have to say it is an interesting question. For me its usually phrased in the manner of "How don't you have a girlfriend?" or "How hasn't a girl snatched you up yet?". Similar to most people that are posting over on that board, there is no good answer that I can come up with, besides bad luck maybe?
Moving forward I understand that it seems like a general question that people ask when getting to know a new person in a social group particularly when they find out you are single after several meetings or mutual hang outs through common friends, however, it is one of those bitter sweet questions. Asked in the way to pay a compliment, yet usually received in the negative. Those of us that are single and asked the question often are not the ones that want to be single. I myself have bounced around between girls over the last several years but can not honestly say I've been in a relationship in the last two, maybe three years. It has been my experience that you ladies really control where and at what point a relationship moves to the next level, and I myself have found girls that just want sex. While I'm not complaining about the sex, because some of it was fantastic. It is, however, emotionally not fulfilling. Elaborating on this point, over the years I have been told that when I'm 30 the ladies will be crawling over me to be in a relationship but girls in their 20's aren't looking for a commitment. Yet I have known tons of girls in their 20's in committed relationships, certainly all of them wouldn't be in one just to avoid being single. The other way to put it is that I've been described as a dick in a glass jar, break glass in case of emergency. Which I've never quite understood how that can be a compliment.
I guess this is on my mind as of late because after many months of hoping that things would work out with a girl back in the states I finally received my pink slip from her about two months ago. She said that even when I get back to the states we wouldn't become more than our friends with benefits thing. Since that occurred decided to give dating here a shot. As of today I have been on three dates here in Australia one lawyer who was polite yet we had nothing in common. Two with a girl from my screen writing course who seemed interested up front yet has become supper flaky, and as of Wednesday of last week when asking for a girls number was flat out said no to. Now this is something that most men should be accustomed to. This is not the first time I've been said no to, and I doubt it will be the last, but it has been sometime since I've been said no to so it brought me back to reality so to say.
I guess there is no real point to this rambling, just venting in general. Perhaps its just getting to the point where I'm in my mid 20's and sick of being single. Regardless, I've had too many lonely nights in the last six months and feeling a bit bummed out. As of right now, for me, being single sucks.
I was lurking on the Dating Sucks board and came across that question. I have to say it is an interesting question. For me its usually phrased in the manner of "How don't you have a girlfriend?" or "How hasn't a girl snatched you up yet?". Similar to most people that are posting over on that board, there is no good answer that I can come up with, besides bad luck maybe?
Moving forward I understand that it seems like a general question that people ask when getting to know a new person in a social group particularly when they find out you are single after several meetings or mutual hang outs through common friends, however, it is one of those bitter sweet questions. Asked in the way to pay a compliment, yet usually received in the negative. Those of us that are single and asked the question often are not the ones that want to be single. I myself have bounced around between girls over the last several years but can not honestly say I've been in a relationship in the last two, maybe three years. It has been my experience that you ladies really control where and at what point a relationship moves to the next level, and I myself have found girls that just want sex. While I'm not complaining about the sex, because some of it was fantastic. It is, however, emotionally not fulfilling. Elaborating on this point, over the years I have been told that when I'm 30 the ladies will be crawling over me to be in a relationship but girls in their 20's aren't looking for a commitment. Yet I have known tons of girls in their 20's in committed relationships, certainly all of them wouldn't be in one just to avoid being single. The other way to put it is that I've been described as a dick in a glass jar, break glass in case of emergency. Which I've never quite understood how that can be a compliment.
I guess this is on my mind as of late because after many months of hoping that things would work out with a girl back in the states I finally received my pink slip from her about two months ago. She said that even when I get back to the states we wouldn't become more than our friends with benefits thing. Since that occurred decided to give dating here a shot. As of today I have been on three dates here in Australia one lawyer who was polite yet we had nothing in common. Two with a girl from my screen writing course who seemed interested up front yet has become supper flaky, and as of Wednesday of last week when asking for a girls number was flat out said no to. Now this is something that most men should be accustomed to. This is not the first time I've been said no to, and I doubt it will be the last, but it has been sometime since I've been said no to so it brought me back to reality so to say.
I guess there is no real point to this rambling, just venting in general. Perhaps its just getting to the point where I'm in my mid 20's and sick of being single. Regardless, I've had too many lonely nights in the last six months and feeling a bit bummed out. As of right now, for me, being single sucks.