I go on a couple of dates with a girl, we have a good time, but there is little to no progress from one date to the next. We get to know each other a little each time we see one another, but I start to get the feeling like I'm falling into the friend zone, even though I'm honest with how I feel and in which direction I'd like to see this progress.
After calling her on her lack of interest, she claims she doesn't know what she wants, and it would be best to put this whole thing on hold until she figures a couple of things out, and gets to know me better.
I'm always of the opinion of that you are either interested...or your not. Waiting to think about things in that way basically means you're not ready, and probably shouldn't consider being ready for a while. Sounds like emotional baggage to me and you can never tell if its only a couple of carry ons, or storage for an entire 747.
Two days later, she come on MSN bitching about how she hates having emotions, and she is being toyed with by this other guy who she was reconnecting with...so this 747's destination is deep deep into the friend zone whether she knows it or not. I certainly hope that she knows she is closing that door with me by talking about this sort of stuff.
I realize that it requires a certain level of trust to talk to someone about this, and this could be her way of opening up to me. But when this opening up includes information blatantly saying how she is not ready for anything serious...my cognitive dissonance made by a want for this girl, and knowledge of her instability sends me smashing my head against a wall.
I've been in this place before. I'm very good at supporting someone, pumping them up when they are feeling down...but I don't want to be someone's crutch when they should be walking it off. I've done that for 2 years, and it brought me a sad, painful, confusing breakup.
Where are all the cute, smart, and stable women in this city?
....oh yeah, I forgot, they're all taken.
After calling her on her lack of interest, she claims she doesn't know what she wants, and it would be best to put this whole thing on hold until she figures a couple of things out, and gets to know me better.
I'm always of the opinion of that you are either interested...or your not. Waiting to think about things in that way basically means you're not ready, and probably shouldn't consider being ready for a while. Sounds like emotional baggage to me and you can never tell if its only a couple of carry ons, or storage for an entire 747.
Two days later, she come on MSN bitching about how she hates having emotions, and she is being toyed with by this other guy who she was reconnecting with...so this 747's destination is deep deep into the friend zone whether she knows it or not. I certainly hope that she knows she is closing that door with me by talking about this sort of stuff.
I realize that it requires a certain level of trust to talk to someone about this, and this could be her way of opening up to me. But when this opening up includes information blatantly saying how she is not ready for anything serious...my cognitive dissonance made by a want for this girl, and knowledge of her instability sends me smashing my head against a wall.
I've been in this place before. I'm very good at supporting someone, pumping them up when they are feeling down...but I don't want to be someone's crutch when they should be walking it off. I've done that for 2 years, and it brought me a sad, painful, confusing breakup.
Where are all the cute, smart, and stable women in this city?
....oh yeah, I forgot, they're all taken.
niello:
at least you were made aware of the baggage before you invested too much time? Also, how was the NIN show?