I’ve been doing this nude pinup thing for coming up to a year now (wow, that time has totally flown by!) and the most common question I get asked is “How does your boyfriend feel about it?”. He also gets asked these questions from friends and more commonly, nosy acquaintances. I get asked this question a fair amount actually from other women that are interested in posing for SG or are interested in starting a premium snapchat but are a little nervous about how to approach the topic with their significant other. For me, I was quite lucky in the sense that my boyfriend was actually super keen on the idea and very encouraging from the first mention of Suicide Girls. It helped that I’d previously done some bikini and lingerie modelling in my early twenties so this was just kind of like a step up from that.
So, I decided to conduct a little “interview” type thing with my boyfriend to answer all of these questions we have both got over the course of the past year or so. I’m not saying we are experts on this topic but I just thought it would be cool and interesting to share our thoughts and experiences with you guys 😊
1. What is your opinion on Suicide Girls in general?
It’s a great community that’s supportive for women to express themselves. I like that there’s a place that women can feel confident doing this. On the other side, for men it’s great that there’s a site like this to explore more alternative women which there’s certainly always going to be a market for.
2. What were your initial thoughts when I first mentioned the idea of shooting for Suicide Girls?
Well you had already done modelling in the past so I just sort of saw it as a step up from that. I thought it would be something you’d be well suited to and it made me happy to see you feeling so determined to work towards it. I like that you felt comfortable and confident enough to talk to me about it and discuss/brainstorm shoot ideas together.
3. How has having a girlfriend that has nude pictures available on the internet affected your relationship? Anything positive or negative?
It’s honestly all been positive. In a way this whole experience has helped us grow closer. You’ve become a much happier and confident woman who I feel has truly found herself which has ultimately translated into us being closer. This whole experience has helped us be 100% honest with each other. I think that having you do nude pinup modelling and knowing that I’m comfortable and happy with it kind of brings the relationship to another level.
4. What do your friends think/say about you having a girlfriend that poses nude online?
*laughs* Well they certainly don’t understand it! They seem to think there’s something wrong or weird about me for “letting” you do this. Which is totally stupid. I feel like there’s a thing with some guys that feel they need to keep their women in a cage and hide them from the world. I think it’s a bit of an issue with their own relationship/personal insecurities. They seem to worry that having nude photos online could lead to their girlfriend cheating on them. For me, I feel secure enough to know that posing for photos is just a form of expressing your creativity and is not going to result in you running off with a man that comments on your photos lol.
5. What’s your response to people that criticise you for “letting” me do what I do?
I just tell them that that’s you. You’re your own person and if this is what makes you feel happy and confident then I’ll never stop supporting it. I’d never want to supress you and not allow you to live out your dreams. I want to see you reach your full potential.
6. Who’s your favourite girl on the website? Hehe
*laughs* I don’t know any other than you (dahhh that’s the answer I was looking for hehe)
There you have it, the words of a guy dating a nude pinup gal. All raw and honest for the world to see. Now a little advice from myself ladies, if you want to do something then do it! Life is way too short to hold back from doing something that could make you happy. Surround yourself with people that support your goals and believe in your vision. I've learnt that a lot of people are not worth my time and energy. I used to look at Suicide Girls when I was in high school thinking how cool and wonderful these women were. I would've never imagined that I'd one day get the confidence to put myself out there and become a hopeful. Now I have 2 sets out in member review and another 2 on the way. Even if I never become an official Suicide Girl, I'll always be proud and feel accomplished that I actually gave it a go.
Much love,
Ocea Rae xx
