Sunday Sep 18, 2005

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So I got my heart broken YET AGAIN by my ex. Seriously. When will I stop doing this to myself? I thought there was a chance we'd work things out this time...

On top of that, I am at a loss for words with my roommate. He found out today that his ex-girlfriend, whom he was dating while he was living in Ethiopia, was pregnant and had an abortion about a month ago. It was his baby. I don't know what to say. He obviously wants to talk about it but seriously, what do you say? She told him she was sterile. I'm beginning to think she lied about something, either the sterility or the pregnancy. Maybe she's trying to guilt-trip him into coming back. Except then, she wouldn't have had the abortion. I don't know.

He's upset and I don't know what to do. And I'm jealous because it was her and not me. So I'm probably not the best person for him to talk to in the first place. God. Fucked up to say the least.
u_dont_know_me:
And where have you been young lady?
zpo:
The key is that he wants to talk about it. There aren't any magic things you can say. The best thing you can do is listen.

In general, any of the options on the truth don't lead to a good relationship if he were to go back.

A) She lied about the pregnancy/abortion to guilt trip him to come back. So she thinks this would make him come back why?

B) She lied about being sterile with the hope he would get her pregnant and he'd stay. This doesn't sound like someone I'd want to stay with.

C) She was told she is sterile, but actually isn't and she had the abortion without telling him. While this would be her right, if she's telling him now it stinks of manipulation.

Any way you slice it, she doesn't sound like a person to be in a health relationship with.

If he wants to talk, let him talk. Hold his hand and let him talk. You don't have to say anything, just be there and listen.

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