Online Dating Part 3: The Financial
I covered this a little in part two, but there seems to be a strange emphasis on jobs in these dating sites. Now, I know that we all want someone that has a job. And there are some people that feel threatened when their partner makes more money than they do, which is sad. Even worse is the person that feels that he/she does not need to pay for anything.
We live in the San Francisco Bay Area, the two income house hold is a requirement for anyone below the median income levels. And since we are not even living together yet, just dating and taking it slow, my future ex-girlfriend needs to be able to support her own life.
I will not pay your bills for you. If you need help then yes, I can help you out. But if you think that I'm gonna take over your financial responsibility for the promise of what is sure to mediocre sex (it always is in the beginning, we'll get to that later), then you should know that I believe in legalizing prostitution but I will not support it through third parties. Besides if I was gonna pay for it then I would simply drive to Nevada and pay the pros to get what I wanted.
I think the problem with the job situation is that people see it as a battle of the sexes. Whoever makes the most money has the control. I don't feel that way. I am more than happy to have a girlfriend that makes more than I do. And no I don't really care what she does to make itas long as it is legal.
No, the big question here is how she treats me if she makes more. If she is rubbing it in my face or if she looks down on me because of a couple thousand dollars a year, then it ain't gonna work. And if she expects me to be her kept man because she is making the six or seven figure income, well that is not gonna work either. I am a man, I have an identity separate from my girlfriend and I expect my girlfriend to be the same.
Make your money, I'll make mine. I'll spend mine (some of which I will spend on you). And you can spend yours (it would be nice if some of it was spent on me, as well). If all goes right and we get along. Then greatwe'll find a way to share some money, but it is important that we still both have our own. I do not relinquish that, and would not ask my girlfriends to.
That's it for the financial question. See you in a couple of days with part 4: Intellect.
I covered this a little in part two, but there seems to be a strange emphasis on jobs in these dating sites. Now, I know that we all want someone that has a job. And there are some people that feel threatened when their partner makes more money than they do, which is sad. Even worse is the person that feels that he/she does not need to pay for anything.
We live in the San Francisco Bay Area, the two income house hold is a requirement for anyone below the median income levels. And since we are not even living together yet, just dating and taking it slow, my future ex-girlfriend needs to be able to support her own life.
I will not pay your bills for you. If you need help then yes, I can help you out. But if you think that I'm gonna take over your financial responsibility for the promise of what is sure to mediocre sex (it always is in the beginning, we'll get to that later), then you should know that I believe in legalizing prostitution but I will not support it through third parties. Besides if I was gonna pay for it then I would simply drive to Nevada and pay the pros to get what I wanted.
I think the problem with the job situation is that people see it as a battle of the sexes. Whoever makes the most money has the control. I don't feel that way. I am more than happy to have a girlfriend that makes more than I do. And no I don't really care what she does to make itas long as it is legal.
No, the big question here is how she treats me if she makes more. If she is rubbing it in my face or if she looks down on me because of a couple thousand dollars a year, then it ain't gonna work. And if she expects me to be her kept man because she is making the six or seven figure income, well that is not gonna work either. I am a man, I have an identity separate from my girlfriend and I expect my girlfriend to be the same.
Make your money, I'll make mine. I'll spend mine (some of which I will spend on you). And you can spend yours (it would be nice if some of it was spent on me, as well). If all goes right and we get along. Then greatwe'll find a way to share some money, but it is important that we still both have our own. I do not relinquish that, and would not ask my girlfriends to.
That's it for the financial question. See you in a couple of days with part 4: Intellect.