Well, this is interesting. A month ago I was lamenting the fact that I didn't have a social life and spent my evenings at home alone because I had no reason to go out. Now I have four women who are interested in me and upcoming dates with three of them. I find it rather amusing that at 30 I'm getting more dates than I ever did in my 20s, and I'm loving the attention. However, I also recognize that this is going to become a problem very soon.
You see, I'm the kind of guy who has a hard time saying "no" to anything involving women and relationships. And while dating four women will be tremendously fun for a while, at some point things are inevitably going to start getting serious with one or more of them. Problem is, the reason I'm seeing four women is because there are qualities in each of them that I find attractive, qualities the other three don't have. One of them is very mature for her age and can carry on an intelligent conversation about anything. Plus she's stunningly beautiful, with full lips and dark eyes that could stop traffic. The second one is a roller girl with an independent, fun-loving attitude but an underlying maturity and clear goals. And her tattoos and lip rings are incredibly hot. The third is a down to earth girl-next-door type who likes to have a good time but knows what she wants and has a great sense of humor, and we share a lot in common from our music preferences to our slightly geeky scientific sides. Finally, the fourth girl shares my love of fashion and creativity, makes some of her own clothing, and would love to model some of the gowns I design.
If it came down to it, I don't know if I'd be able to choose one to pursue a relationship with and the others to just be friends with. Which qualities would I rather have in a girlfriend? And which could I do without? At this point I'm not even sure which of the four is most interested in going beyond friendship with me. I guess the only way to know for sure is to date all four and gauge their interest by how they respond to me. Unfortunately, by doing this I run the risk of falling for more than one of them, and then what? This is more complicated than I care a social life to be.
All I really want is one girl to be clearly interested in me as more than a friend, not several who MIGHT be interested. In any case, I have a first date with the roller girl tomorrow, so I'll see how it goes. In the end, this will either resolve itself or blow up in my face. But nothing monumental was ever accomplished without a great deal of risk, right?
You see, I'm the kind of guy who has a hard time saying "no" to anything involving women and relationships. And while dating four women will be tremendously fun for a while, at some point things are inevitably going to start getting serious with one or more of them. Problem is, the reason I'm seeing four women is because there are qualities in each of them that I find attractive, qualities the other three don't have. One of them is very mature for her age and can carry on an intelligent conversation about anything. Plus she's stunningly beautiful, with full lips and dark eyes that could stop traffic. The second one is a roller girl with an independent, fun-loving attitude but an underlying maturity and clear goals. And her tattoos and lip rings are incredibly hot. The third is a down to earth girl-next-door type who likes to have a good time but knows what she wants and has a great sense of humor, and we share a lot in common from our music preferences to our slightly geeky scientific sides. Finally, the fourth girl shares my love of fashion and creativity, makes some of her own clothing, and would love to model some of the gowns I design.
If it came down to it, I don't know if I'd be able to choose one to pursue a relationship with and the others to just be friends with. Which qualities would I rather have in a girlfriend? And which could I do without? At this point I'm not even sure which of the four is most interested in going beyond friendship with me. I guess the only way to know for sure is to date all four and gauge their interest by how they respond to me. Unfortunately, by doing this I run the risk of falling for more than one of them, and then what? This is more complicated than I care a social life to be.
All I really want is one girl to be clearly interested in me as more than a friend, not several who MIGHT be interested. In any case, I have a first date with the roller girl tomorrow, so I'll see how it goes. In the end, this will either resolve itself or blow up in my face. But nothing monumental was ever accomplished without a great deal of risk, right?
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