the weather is being cooperative and spring-like and wonderful.
on a more...sadder note, one of my closest friends just went through a rather traumatic experience.
It began as a joke. She "thought" she was pregnant.
We all made fun of it. She said she would eat so much because of the baby.
It was half a joke, half serious. She really felt pregnant.
My friends and I insisted she get a pregnancy test if she felt that strongly about it.
She was scared to find out the results.
Needless to say she got her period so we all thought the pregnancy scare was over.
Except it wasn't.
Her period was extremely irregular. Her flow was too light. Practically nothing was coming out.
Until last night.
The blood came alright.
A LOT of it.
She IM'ed me in the middle of the night last night saying she was bleeding way too much and had excruciating pains.
I told her it was all mental, just like the pregnancy thing, I thought.
I told her to go to the health center in the morning.
So she went to Planned Parenthood this morning after a night of hell.
It had been a miscarriage.
She had lost the baby.
She didn't know, for sure, anyways she had been pregnant.
She felt it, but since she never got tested she didn't take care of herself.
She kept on drinking and smoking and partying like we always do.
She had been 2 1/2 weeks along.
Not that much, but either way...
She had an evolving, living being inside her.
And now it's dead.
How sad. I don't know what I would have done in that situation.
I don't think I would have had the heart to abort it.
But God knows no girl my age is ready for a baby.
I'm so proud of her for being strong throughout all this.
The tears welled up in my eyes when she called me this morning after she left Planned Parenthood.
And the guy?
Some douche who she's been hooking up with for about a year and a half but who only uses her when he wants to get laid.
She told him about it, and all he could say was he wasn't going to have anything to do with it.
It wasn't his "fault."
He still doesn't know what happened.
But I hope he feels like the biggest scumbag in the planet when she does tell him.
I hope he's haunted by it for the rest of his life.
It's for easy for him to dial her number when he gets back from partying and drinking.
But he couldn't even man up to the consequences his pleasure seeking caused.
You really have to count your blessings. I know I'm counting mine.
on a more...sadder note, one of my closest friends just went through a rather traumatic experience.
It began as a joke. She "thought" she was pregnant.
We all made fun of it. She said she would eat so much because of the baby.
It was half a joke, half serious. She really felt pregnant.
My friends and I insisted she get a pregnancy test if she felt that strongly about it.
She was scared to find out the results.
Needless to say she got her period so we all thought the pregnancy scare was over.
Except it wasn't.
Her period was extremely irregular. Her flow was too light. Practically nothing was coming out.
Until last night.
The blood came alright.
A LOT of it.
She IM'ed me in the middle of the night last night saying she was bleeding way too much and had excruciating pains.
I told her it was all mental, just like the pregnancy thing, I thought.
I told her to go to the health center in the morning.
So she went to Planned Parenthood this morning after a night of hell.
It had been a miscarriage.
She had lost the baby.
She didn't know, for sure, anyways she had been pregnant.
She felt it, but since she never got tested she didn't take care of herself.
She kept on drinking and smoking and partying like we always do.
She had been 2 1/2 weeks along.
Not that much, but either way...
She had an evolving, living being inside her.
And now it's dead.
How sad. I don't know what I would have done in that situation.
I don't think I would have had the heart to abort it.
But God knows no girl my age is ready for a baby.
I'm so proud of her for being strong throughout all this.
The tears welled up in my eyes when she called me this morning after she left Planned Parenthood.
And the guy?
Some douche who she's been hooking up with for about a year and a half but who only uses her when he wants to get laid.
She told him about it, and all he could say was he wasn't going to have anything to do with it.
It wasn't his "fault."
He still doesn't know what happened.
But I hope he feels like the biggest scumbag in the planet when she does tell him.
I hope he's haunted by it for the rest of his life.
It's for easy for him to dial her number when he gets back from partying and drinking.
But he couldn't even man up to the consequences his pleasure seeking caused.
You really have to count your blessings. I know I'm counting mine.
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I hope your friend is ok.
That guy is a reak loser, hope your friend doesn't have anything to do with him ever.
I hope you are ok too Naville. That had to be rough.
Take care sweetie.
Please remember that some problems can be ignored; like the guy hitting on you, others cannot and should not be like pregnancy. The off the shelve tests would have been an easy check she could and should have made. If she would not buy it one of you her friends need to buy it. Sometimes a friend needs to take control.
I am sorry if I sound like I am lecturing you but I am.
Please do me one favor punch the "guy" for me. He makes us all look bad. (I stood by and supported her when it happed to us - see above). On second thought hit him twice for me.