musim

So a while back I decided I wasn't going to ditch anymore friends off. A lot of people just nonchalantly stop talking to people or take breaks from. Me, I tell them off or simply tell them I'm not going o be there friend anymore. But a few months ago I decided I was wrong to do this as I miss everyone at some point in my life and so I would stop doing this. Well I got my first test this weekend.

Its an extremely absurd story. It may take you back to your high school days. This is going to be a very hard post for any passer-bye's to take seriously. But I will tell you the story. And then I will fill in some details on the personality involved.

So Friday night, I'm going out with a couple of my friends and we're going to go out to eat and then to see the new Fantastic Four movie. Four of us involved and one woman ironically. Anyway we'll give them letter names. C and M have been together about a year or so now. J is there too. This story is about M.

So we go eat at IHOP. I surprise everyone and buy dinner because I really like spending money on friends when I can. And then we have an hour and a half or so to wait so we walk over to target. All is merry; we're having a blast. M needs to take a shit and M takes half hour long shits. So he goes in the restroom. We wait about a minute and then decide to wonder off around Target because M has his cell phone on him. We go to electronics. After a little while I go to toys to look for Target exclusive Transformer toys (my real reason for suggesting Target). I go back to electronics and no one is there. So a minute later I find J and then another minute later we find C. M is no where to be found. We check the bathroom. M is not there. We call M. M doesn't answer. We start to get worried.

Something similar has happened before. M has been known to get upset about things we don't understand and run away. We worry this has happened.

So we search target. J goes to get his car and drives around and looks for M. C discovers she left her cell phone in her car. M calls J and asks to speak to C. When J tells M that C isn't with him, M immediately hangs up. M calls me asking to speak to C. I ask where M is after which M hangs up. I page M from the customer service at target. No sign of M. We start heading back to C's car so she can get her phone. I call M and leave a message informing him that if he calls again I'll let him speak to C. He calls. He speaks to C. He won't tell C where he is. He tells C that he won't tell her where he is until J and I are gone because he doesn't want a big confrontation. Did I mention C is his ride?

So J and I go to the movie. There is nothing we can do. He won't respond to our text messages or phone calls. We feel very badly for C. Later we find out why M was mad. Before going to the bathroom, C had made a crack about the last time M freaked out in passing. Then when M had finished taking a shit, M got made that we weren't all waiting there for him.

I really want to end my friendship with M. The first time he pulled this he was made at everyone for not being decisive at his birthday that he planned. He was even made at the people who drove down from OKC to visit him. I really don't want to babysit a grown man. Did I mention he's 27?

But the conundrum is I can't break my vow. So I have to figure out how to be a friend in this situation. Unfortunately being a massive dickhead to him is the only thing that comes to mind. I mean he's holding a grudge against us for this stuff. I've been friend with this guy for years and this just started a few months ago.

I do have a conspiracy theory about it though.

M has a severely low self esteem but at the same time he is knowingly very selfish. C is the best female thing that has ever happened to M, looks and personality and job all around. And since this has only happened when M has been hanging out with us and C in a group, I can't help but wonder if he's worried he's not good enough for C and that someone is going to take her away from him. BUT that's definitely conspiracy theory material right there. I have no facts to base this on. He is also one of the most passive aggressive non-confrontive people I have ever met. And if you know me in person, you know there just about no stopping the confrontation.

And I just found out confrontive doesn't seem to be a real word. I'm sad now.