So I been pondering this new Heroes catagory we have at our resource, and I decided I am not going to fill it in. I'm not good with the whole "hero" concept; I take it too far.
I get too intensely obsessed with people that I dig, and it's not good for either of us. Like a wise person here (Free2B) put it (paraphrasing now): when I put others on a pedestal it all comes crashing down on my head. As I (skooter) put it: I seek approval from unrealistic sources.
I have also found that I learn best in a ass-to-front sort of way, which is to say that I have to figure out what I DON'T want, before I can figure out what I do want. My life is a long lumbering process of elimination, demanding that I burn my bridges all inferno-like. Hence, I have a huge number of anti-heroes.
So, given my vulnerabilities and proclivities, I recently resolved to not have heroes, but instead to have role-models; two different things, and I like the distinction. Hero = unattainable fantasy-based archetypes. Role-model = person who demonstrates attainable behaviors, practicable philosophy, etc. Also, my role-models evolve as I evolve; when a life situation changes I find that people move from the role-model category to the past influences category.
I also have a "famous people who I admire" category, but that is not so relevant right now.
Note to self: please work on the OCD; a person need not have so many fricken categories and distinctions.
Note to others: these are MY definitions that work for me. Your mileage may vary.
My current role-models are:
Career: my supervising attorney Peter Benjamin. Columbia grad, quit high-paying corporate gig in NYC to move up to western mASS-achusetts to work in legal aid. He is a fatanstic teacher, a great lawyer, and he has a balance in his life between work and life. And he's funny.
Emotional equilibrium: a guy name of Dan Empfield. He helped me a shitload last summer with a major shedding of the skin that I had to go through. I would not have done it as quickly without him, and it would have been far, far more excruciating than it was. I think of him sometimes, though we have not had contact in a while, which gives me some sadness.
On the three or four of my very best, most beautiful and ego-less days of my life, I have been my own role-model. On those days I practiced everything I believe, and I was the I and the Thou.
And in other news... I just used a new Mango-Pomegranate soap pour le corps, as they say, and I smell dee-licious!
Also, I need to go bra shopping. I am sick of my current boring bras, and want to update with more pink/lacey/flowery/little cute bows bras. They are pretty, and if I wear them I will be pretty. That's how pretty things work. Pretty is contagious. And yeah for that, otherwise I'd be nowhere.
Tasty
PS: I am in the mood for a large Jack Daniels and a lap dance. Who's with me?
I get too intensely obsessed with people that I dig, and it's not good for either of us. Like a wise person here (Free2B) put it (paraphrasing now): when I put others on a pedestal it all comes crashing down on my head. As I (skooter) put it: I seek approval from unrealistic sources.
I have also found that I learn best in a ass-to-front sort of way, which is to say that I have to figure out what I DON'T want, before I can figure out what I do want. My life is a long lumbering process of elimination, demanding that I burn my bridges all inferno-like. Hence, I have a huge number of anti-heroes.
So, given my vulnerabilities and proclivities, I recently resolved to not have heroes, but instead to have role-models; two different things, and I like the distinction. Hero = unattainable fantasy-based archetypes. Role-model = person who demonstrates attainable behaviors, practicable philosophy, etc. Also, my role-models evolve as I evolve; when a life situation changes I find that people move from the role-model category to the past influences category.
I also have a "famous people who I admire" category, but that is not so relevant right now.
Note to self: please work on the OCD; a person need not have so many fricken categories and distinctions.
Note to others: these are MY definitions that work for me. Your mileage may vary.
My current role-models are:
Career: my supervising attorney Peter Benjamin. Columbia grad, quit high-paying corporate gig in NYC to move up to western mASS-achusetts to work in legal aid. He is a fatanstic teacher, a great lawyer, and he has a balance in his life between work and life. And he's funny.
Emotional equilibrium: a guy name of Dan Empfield. He helped me a shitload last summer with a major shedding of the skin that I had to go through. I would not have done it as quickly without him, and it would have been far, far more excruciating than it was. I think of him sometimes, though we have not had contact in a while, which gives me some sadness.
On the three or four of my very best, most beautiful and ego-less days of my life, I have been my own role-model. On those days I practiced everything I believe, and I was the I and the Thou.
And in other news... I just used a new Mango-Pomegranate soap pour le corps, as they say, and I smell dee-licious!
Also, I need to go bra shopping. I am sick of my current boring bras, and want to update with more pink/lacey/flowery/little cute bows bras. They are pretty, and if I wear them I will be pretty. That's how pretty things work. Pretty is contagious. And yeah for that, otherwise I'd be nowhere.
Tasty
PS: I am in the mood for a large Jack Daniels and a lap dance. Who's with me?
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So youre coming over with a Bottle of Jack and giving me a Lap Dance???
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