Ok, I'm bothered by my frat-boy appearance! I was just reading one of cait's entries, and it totally bummed me out. I don't think I drink or exist on the same emotional level as most frat boys, in fact I know I'm well beyond them in terms of emotional maturity, but I do think I have the frat boy look to me.
I know I shouldn't care, blah blah blah, but I'm afraid people do look at how we appear to them at first, and judge us based on our appearance, before they even listen to any of the things we say.
So sure, given enough time a person's words and actions can overcome their appearance; but it just bums me out that we're so quick to judge.
I know it's in our nature, I know it helps us maintain our defenses, but god dammit it sucks! And here I am complaining about it as a clean-cut, short haired, frat-boy lookin guy.
But I'm not!
How many frat boys can even Identify which Shakespearean play Prospero was even in, let alone his metaphoric role as both god and conscience.
I know cait went into plenty more qualifying statements about how to identify suspected brain-dead frat boys, but being lumped into that category based solely on my appearance is a problem I have faced my whole life, and it bums me out.
OK, so pretty quickly after most people stike up a reasonable conversation with me, they find that I'm not at all what I appear to be, but man there are so many people out there that just never see past the surface. What a bummer! Here I am, having what is probably the exact same problem as a lot of the other people on this site, but here I am on the opposite end of the "appearance" stick.
Well, it's not to say life is shitty, just that this kind of thing is, regardless of which side you're on!
Rock on everyone! Thanks for allowing me to vent!
I know I shouldn't care, blah blah blah, but I'm afraid people do look at how we appear to them at first, and judge us based on our appearance, before they even listen to any of the things we say.
So sure, given enough time a person's words and actions can overcome their appearance; but it just bums me out that we're so quick to judge.
I know it's in our nature, I know it helps us maintain our defenses, but god dammit it sucks! And here I am complaining about it as a clean-cut, short haired, frat-boy lookin guy.
But I'm not!
How many frat boys can even Identify which Shakespearean play Prospero was even in, let alone his metaphoric role as both god and conscience.
I know cait went into plenty more qualifying statements about how to identify suspected brain-dead frat boys, but being lumped into that category based solely on my appearance is a problem I have faced my whole life, and it bums me out.
OK, so pretty quickly after most people stike up a reasonable conversation with me, they find that I'm not at all what I appear to be, but man there are so many people out there that just never see past the surface. What a bummer! Here I am, having what is probably the exact same problem as a lot of the other people on this site, but here I am on the opposite end of the "appearance" stick.
Well, it's not to say life is shitty, just that this kind of thing is, regardless of which side you're on!
Rock on everyone! Thanks for allowing me to vent!
Now, as you look at my profile pic, what's the first thing that pops into your head?
{look before continuing}
Psycho, redneck, and creepy are the usual replies. Things I am, to a point. I'm also relatively well-read, a decent guy, and very capable of laughing at myself. But it's rare to see me smile in public, so not many realize this.
I doubt "frat boy" (a term I despise as much as "frat rat") even entered your head. Yet I am a member of a fraternity. Cait can judge all she wants. I prefer to keep my membership low-key, then spring it on someone when they start complaining about fraternities/sororities in general.
Speaking of that Denver station, they played Apollo 440's "Stop the Rock" pretty regularly, so I bought the CD when I stumbled on it. Come to play it & I hear a song from the Gran Turismo 3 (which I used to play religiously) soundtrack--"Cold Rock the Mic". Not too shabby for $5.
I do think it's kinda odd the local "independently-owned so we play whatever the f*** we want" Canuck station plays more of the mainstream stuff (Avril Lavigne, Coldplay, Kid Rock, etc.), yet the big, bad corporation-owned Denver station played more of the fringe stuff (Bran Van 3000, Depeche Mode, BT, Snake River Conspiracy, And One, Ministry, etc.)