From my Journal on 01/02/06
Saturday:
Woke up to the phone ringing at 11am - it was the boys brother. He was supposed to tell us about one of the nephews birthday party being held at 2pm that day, but had forgotten. We were hung over, tired, and had not planned on being anywhere, especially and 6 year-olds birthday party, but his family being the drama filled cult that it is, we decided to attend in order to keep the peace with the adults bad fucking idea!
Cut to the kids party
We arrived a few minutes after 2, before the brother who called us even showed, and were greeted by JWs mom, with one of her snide looks and comments. JW and I quickly made our way outside and attempted to play/teach baseball with the bounty of children. Before presents and cake there was already drama, drama, dramathen came presents. Next a yelling JWs mom, her calling me a bitch who ruined the entire family, us trying to leave, me saying fuck you and other harsh personal shit to JWs oldest brother (this is his brother who has a history of abusing the other, much younger siblings and my exact quote was So its okay to fuck your little sisters and beat the shit out of your little brothers, but we cant have a different opinionIm glad to be out of here!) and JWs official disownment. Woo-hoo, I love kids birthday parties, they are such innocent fun.
Cut to drive to New Years Eve soiree with one of JWs sisters riding with us
JWs sister gets a cell call from the mom saying that she feels betrayed that she is hanging out with us (we hang out all of the time and JW have hung out together on a regular basis since forever). JWs sister tells the mom that she refuses to choose between her mother and her brotherthe mothers says you just chose and hangs-up. The mom is one crazy bitch The mom then calls another sister and disowns her too because she also refused to choose. I swear this woman is truly mentally unstable. The mom is also saying that I called her a stupid bitch. I never called her thathell I didnt even curse at hersure I thought it, but now I wish I would have said itafter all you might as well do something if you are going to be accused of itright?
So that is what happened nearly a month ago. Since then my life has pretty fucking good. Ive havent been stressing on what her next outburst is going to be. I havent been worried about what her next step in getting us to break up is. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders when she said that JW was disowned.
The majority of mine and JWs arguments have been because of his crazy family and with them out of the picture we have been so perfect.
Yesterday, out of the blue, the bitch decided to call him at work. She brought up shit about me yet again and used her normal techniques to try to guilt him into being indebted to her. She said that I am bad for him (even though he is happier, healthier, drug-free, out of debt and more successful since hes been with me.) She told him that she wants her conversations between him and her to be privateshe doesnt want him to tell me whats going on between them, even when the shit she is saying is about me. That is just not right or even possible when you are in a real relationship.
At this point I have absolutely no use for the lady. She is crazy and a liar and I dont put it past her to do something to hurt me. I honestly would not be surprised if she called the cops on me and said that I hit her or something just to cause me grief. She is fucking insane, as well as controlling, manipulative and mean.
Im so sick of this drama. I am so sick of her control over all of her off-spring. Im sick of having to worry about what her next plot is going to be. I sick of this yo-yohow far do I need to be pushed before I just say NO MORE!!!!!
Edited with the following update:
Well, the boy just called me. Hes on his lunch break. He said that last night he was willing to do whatever she wanted to make things okay again. He said that the longer he has thought about it the more crazy he thinks she is. He is now resolute that its her turn to fix things not ours.
He plans on calling her tonight to confront her on a few things, just so she knows that shes not getting away with anything. He is also going to tell her that she is out of his life until she is ready to apologize to both of us and get some professional help for herself.
This is exactly the decision that I wanted him to makebut I really wanted him to make it on his own without me telling him what to do. Well he did just that and I am sooo glad.
Im sure the crazy mom drama is far from being over yet, but I feel better already.
Saturday:
Woke up to the phone ringing at 11am - it was the boys brother. He was supposed to tell us about one of the nephews birthday party being held at 2pm that day, but had forgotten. We were hung over, tired, and had not planned on being anywhere, especially and 6 year-olds birthday party, but his family being the drama filled cult that it is, we decided to attend in order to keep the peace with the adults bad fucking idea!
Cut to the kids party
We arrived a few minutes after 2, before the brother who called us even showed, and were greeted by JWs mom, with one of her snide looks and comments. JW and I quickly made our way outside and attempted to play/teach baseball with the bounty of children. Before presents and cake there was already drama, drama, dramathen came presents. Next a yelling JWs mom, her calling me a bitch who ruined the entire family, us trying to leave, me saying fuck you and other harsh personal shit to JWs oldest brother (this is his brother who has a history of abusing the other, much younger siblings and my exact quote was So its okay to fuck your little sisters and beat the shit out of your little brothers, but we cant have a different opinionIm glad to be out of here!) and JWs official disownment. Woo-hoo, I love kids birthday parties, they are such innocent fun.
Cut to drive to New Years Eve soiree with one of JWs sisters riding with us
JWs sister gets a cell call from the mom saying that she feels betrayed that she is hanging out with us (we hang out all of the time and JW have hung out together on a regular basis since forever). JWs sister tells the mom that she refuses to choose between her mother and her brotherthe mothers says you just chose and hangs-up. The mom is one crazy bitch The mom then calls another sister and disowns her too because she also refused to choose. I swear this woman is truly mentally unstable. The mom is also saying that I called her a stupid bitch. I never called her thathell I didnt even curse at hersure I thought it, but now I wish I would have said itafter all you might as well do something if you are going to be accused of itright?
So that is what happened nearly a month ago. Since then my life has pretty fucking good. Ive havent been stressing on what her next outburst is going to be. I havent been worried about what her next step in getting us to break up is. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders when she said that JW was disowned.
The majority of mine and JWs arguments have been because of his crazy family and with them out of the picture we have been so perfect.
Yesterday, out of the blue, the bitch decided to call him at work. She brought up shit about me yet again and used her normal techniques to try to guilt him into being indebted to her. She said that I am bad for him (even though he is happier, healthier, drug-free, out of debt and more successful since hes been with me.) She told him that she wants her conversations between him and her to be privateshe doesnt want him to tell me whats going on between them, even when the shit she is saying is about me. That is just not right or even possible when you are in a real relationship.
At this point I have absolutely no use for the lady. She is crazy and a liar and I dont put it past her to do something to hurt me. I honestly would not be surprised if she called the cops on me and said that I hit her or something just to cause me grief. She is fucking insane, as well as controlling, manipulative and mean.
Im so sick of this drama. I am so sick of her control over all of her off-spring. Im sick of having to worry about what her next plot is going to be. I sick of this yo-yohow far do I need to be pushed before I just say NO MORE!!!!!
Edited with the following update:
Well, the boy just called me. Hes on his lunch break. He said that last night he was willing to do whatever she wanted to make things okay again. He said that the longer he has thought about it the more crazy he thinks she is. He is now resolute that its her turn to fix things not ours.
He plans on calling her tonight to confront her on a few things, just so she knows that shes not getting away with anything. He is also going to tell her that she is out of his life until she is ready to apologize to both of us and get some professional help for herself.
This is exactly the decision that I wanted him to makebut I really wanted him to make it on his own without me telling him what to do. Well he did just that and I am sooo glad.
Im sure the crazy mom drama is far from being over yet, but I feel better already.
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marinadenise:
everything's comin up Rachel! 
paulnikon:
Hopefully she will get help. Then the healing can begin.