So, I have this ability to get into a relationship, get engaged and then everything falls apart. At least, this has happened twice now and I'm hoping history will not repeat itself.
That being said, Nic has a large list of pet names for me. Anything from 'lady lumps' to just 'lumps' or 'love cup' and 'pirate wench'. Over the past few weeks he's added 'wife'. Since then I've tried explaining to him that yes, the prospect of us getting married and being together for the rest of our lives would be wonderful and fabulous, however it really stings and upsets me when he calls me 'wife'- as I am not yet his wife and I've already been in two relationships where that has been a pet name of mine, and I've no desire to see this relationship go south as those two did. All it really (now) reminds of is being hurt.
What hasn't helped either is due to the fact that I'm in three weddings this year, plus a two more invites over the past four days (one in September and one more in October), Nic has started getting excited and his planning juices have started flowing. He and our friends Ty and Mikey have started discussing the bachelor party, he's already asked our friend Andy to DJ as he has all the equipment and only desires food and beer as payment, he's even thinking of venues. If I was any other girl I'd probably be tickled pink that my man has taken an interest into the wedding planning, instead I just want him to stop. Every time I bring up the point of 'can't we just take it day by day and if we officially get engaged move on from there' he tells me that theres no harm in starting to get ducks in a row early. The sad thing is, I agree, to a point. There is nothing wrong with pre-planning, but that's what I thought the past two times and look what happened there.
Perhaps I should just remind myself that Nic is what he refers to as an 'idea man', and that after October his interests will more than likely wain due to his ability to start projects and not finish them. But something inside me doubts it, and as such maybe I should consider it a sign of learning not to be so sensitive.
That being said, Nic has a large list of pet names for me. Anything from 'lady lumps' to just 'lumps' or 'love cup' and 'pirate wench'. Over the past few weeks he's added 'wife'. Since then I've tried explaining to him that yes, the prospect of us getting married and being together for the rest of our lives would be wonderful and fabulous, however it really stings and upsets me when he calls me 'wife'- as I am not yet his wife and I've already been in two relationships where that has been a pet name of mine, and I've no desire to see this relationship go south as those two did. All it really (now) reminds of is being hurt.
What hasn't helped either is due to the fact that I'm in three weddings this year, plus a two more invites over the past four days (one in September and one more in October), Nic has started getting excited and his planning juices have started flowing. He and our friends Ty and Mikey have started discussing the bachelor party, he's already asked our friend Andy to DJ as he has all the equipment and only desires food and beer as payment, he's even thinking of venues. If I was any other girl I'd probably be tickled pink that my man has taken an interest into the wedding planning, instead I just want him to stop. Every time I bring up the point of 'can't we just take it day by day and if we officially get engaged move on from there' he tells me that theres no harm in starting to get ducks in a row early. The sad thing is, I agree, to a point. There is nothing wrong with pre-planning, but that's what I thought the past two times and look what happened there.
Perhaps I should just remind myself that Nic is what he refers to as an 'idea man', and that after October his interests will more than likely wain due to his ability to start projects and not finish them. But something inside me doubts it, and as such maybe I should consider it a sign of learning not to be so sensitive.
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But let me give you a lil piece of advise. Don't let past experiences define your life. I think it's becoming common place to be engaged twice before one sticks! You, me, Shine....I'm sure there is more of us. Believe you me, I was pretty scared to move to another state (again) just be with a guy. But the first time I did it, there was this nagging voice that said, 'Do you really want to do this?' I didn't have this with Evan so I just had to believe that 6 months later he wouldn't tell me to move back to Ohio. And he didn't and I'm still here. I'm very happy about that.
Nic is definitely a different person than the other 2 guys. You just have to believe in him. Besides, I've seen you two together.
Tell him to start calling you Mother instead.
I hate old couples that call each other Mother and Father. It's just kind of creepy.