moggie

yay glad to hear you enjoyed yourself and loved meeting you!

had a little reply ready (i've typed it *twice* now, fucker of a computer kept screwing up, but probably for the best as I get more to the point each time) in regards to your previous post.

short story, went through the same experience from the female side of things about six months ago with a partner who had the same feelings as you, but was quite vocal about them (cruelly at times).

she's got a shitload of regret, not only because she can't have kids again but it's so much more than you ever imagined and there is a such a grief and natural feeling of loss you can't describe. Go to any abortion sites with stories and read the thousands of responses of regret.

the one single factor in retrospect i wish had been done differently, and I think she really wants is just someone to share the grief. not the guilt, and the anger, but just someone to hold (even though you can't) but to cry with. you know how if a mutual friend dies and everyone bands together? just that need to share with someone else who had half an investment in the baby.

say it to her, how you felt, how it could have been, not cruelly, but that it still hurts you but you can share a grief side of it.

as to eveything else, i guess thats for you to deduce but I hope you work it out and time heals eventually. patience i guess.