In my attempt to not focus on the 35 year old Brazilian man I'm crushing on, I opted to give someone whose been trying to talk to me a chance, and it just isn't working. I think I just figured out why this 24 year old leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth every time we talk. It's almost perfectly stated by Liz Tuccilo.
"Maybe this is just me, because my priorities have changed as I've gotten older. Right now I don't want to 'sort of dating' someone. I don't want to be 'kinda hanging out' with someone. I don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I'll see again because they've demonstrated to me that they're trustworthy and honorable and into me. "
I don't like his incessant mantra of "I'm Spontaneous!" when he doesn't understand what it means. Spontaneous isn't about never having plans and always living by the seat of your pants. Even Evel Knievell had a plan. Spontaneity is about being uninhibited and open to life.
I don't want to be "hanging out". It's non committal and if you're non committal and we just met? What the hell am I doing staying around? So we can be kind of dating and sort of a couple? I shouldn't expect so much from someone so young, I know because your 20s are that time for you to be non committal. Saying to a woman "I never make plans" doesn't mean that you're spontaneous, it means you're lazy and uninspired about dating her. Any woman who accepts a man who isn't passionate about spending time with her is lacking some self respect. It's like looking at him and going "well dating this is better than nothing" when better than nothing is NEVER good enough.
Unfortunately for him I've done a lot of living in the past 2 years. Met a lot of people, done a lot of things and during those 2 years I wanted no commitment but I'm over it. I can't be okay with someone who isn't fucking ecstatic to get to know me. The beginning of a relationship should be passion inspired. I won't accept anything but that.
"Maybe this is just me, because my priorities have changed as I've gotten older. Right now I don't want to 'sort of dating' someone. I don't want to be 'kinda hanging out' with someone. I don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I'll see again because they've demonstrated to me that they're trustworthy and honorable and into me. "
I don't like his incessant mantra of "I'm Spontaneous!" when he doesn't understand what it means. Spontaneous isn't about never having plans and always living by the seat of your pants. Even Evel Knievell had a plan. Spontaneity is about being uninhibited and open to life.
I don't want to be "hanging out". It's non committal and if you're non committal and we just met? What the hell am I doing staying around? So we can be kind of dating and sort of a couple? I shouldn't expect so much from someone so young, I know because your 20s are that time for you to be non committal. Saying to a woman "I never make plans" doesn't mean that you're spontaneous, it means you're lazy and uninspired about dating her. Any woman who accepts a man who isn't passionate about spending time with her is lacking some self respect. It's like looking at him and going "well dating this is better than nothing" when better than nothing is NEVER good enough.
Unfortunately for him I've done a lot of living in the past 2 years. Met a lot of people, done a lot of things and during those 2 years I wanted no commitment but I'm over it. I can't be okay with someone who isn't fucking ecstatic to get to know me. The beginning of a relationship should be passion inspired. I won't accept anything but that.
Being in a relationship 'just because' is so unfulfilling...
Hope you find the passion that you deserve and crave.
P.s. Why can't you have the Brazilian guy?