So, the dissertation is complete!! I have two exams tomorrow then finito for the summer!! I go back in October until January, and then I'm done - forever!!! It's pretty mad. I think I've fucked up big stylee but hey, as long as I can talk the talk I'm sure I'll manage to find a job!
Uni and career stuff isn't really whats bothering me. It's my boy. He's so, so lovely, and we've been together for 4 and a half years. we live together and it's absolutely blissful most of the time, but he's just not happy.
I've mentioned before that he quit his band last year. He was a bassplayer in this one semi-successful band for almost seven years, and the other guys were like brothers to him. Shit happened and he had to leave, and he just hasn't recovered. At the same time, he discovered his incredibly well-respected Dad (his hero, might I add) has fathered a child with another woman. His parents are still together, and have relocated to the country to try and save their marriage. So basically, my boy's life has been thrown upside down, and he doesn;t know how to straighten himself out. I'm trying to be as helpful and as patient as I can to try and help him get back on his feet, but it seems to be in vain. He's become a really violent, aggressive person recently, which is so not him. Most of the time he's the person I know him to be, he's happy, relaxed and as lovely as ever, and then theres days when he's like thunder. it's actually kinda scary.
He's reluctant to seek any professional help, so I'm really at my wits end. I just don't know what to do. I want to help him so much, and I'd hate for our relationship to disintergrate as a product of it. *sigh* Any ideas as to what I can do? He says he needs to find a new way to relax. He hasn't touched his bass in the last few months, I think it's too painful for him. Playing music was his release, so I think not having that is taking its toll.
I'm going to decorate our room with candles and fairy lights, put on some NIN and give him a massage when he gets home later, try and help him relax a little. We've got a week off together, so I'd like to start it well!!
Hope everyone is fine and dandy...what happened to the weather!?!
XOX
Uni and career stuff isn't really whats bothering me. It's my boy. He's so, so lovely, and we've been together for 4 and a half years. we live together and it's absolutely blissful most of the time, but he's just not happy.
I've mentioned before that he quit his band last year. He was a bassplayer in this one semi-successful band for almost seven years, and the other guys were like brothers to him. Shit happened and he had to leave, and he just hasn't recovered. At the same time, he discovered his incredibly well-respected Dad (his hero, might I add) has fathered a child with another woman. His parents are still together, and have relocated to the country to try and save their marriage. So basically, my boy's life has been thrown upside down, and he doesn;t know how to straighten himself out. I'm trying to be as helpful and as patient as I can to try and help him get back on his feet, but it seems to be in vain. He's become a really violent, aggressive person recently, which is so not him. Most of the time he's the person I know him to be, he's happy, relaxed and as lovely as ever, and then theres days when he's like thunder. it's actually kinda scary.
He's reluctant to seek any professional help, so I'm really at my wits end. I just don't know what to do. I want to help him so much, and I'd hate for our relationship to disintergrate as a product of it. *sigh* Any ideas as to what I can do? He says he needs to find a new way to relax. He hasn't touched his bass in the last few months, I think it's too painful for him. Playing music was his release, so I think not having that is taking its toll.
I'm going to decorate our room with candles and fairy lights, put on some NIN and give him a massage when he gets home later, try and help him relax a little. We've got a week off together, so I'd like to start it well!!
Hope everyone is fine and dandy...what happened to the weather!?!
XOX
I hope everything works out well for you.