I pose this question to you, my friends to help settle a dispute between my husband and I. This isn't a dispute that really has any weight, but being the "typical wife" I need to prove that I am ALWAYS right 
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Sooooo, the story goes like this. My husband TheDarkness is a very nice and VERY VERY HOT, GOOD LUCKING, SMART, CHARMING MAN. He very much doesn't believe this, but many of you met him at the SGAZ Christmas party so you can agree with me on that. Some time back, he became friends with a girl who works at our local grocery store and who he also started going to school with.
They talked at school and started text messaging each other. So far, nothing to have a dispute over. Jason would go to the grocery store with the twins and she asked him whose kids were with him. He told her his, to which she didn't believe. He reassured her that they were his and his wife's kids and she would banter with him to admit to her whose children my kids were. I thought, "kind of weird, but no big deal."
She has a boyfriend who also works at the same grocery store with her and he's a decent looking guy as well. Last summer they went to Disneyland and she brought Jason home Mickey Mouse ears with his name on it. I ribbed him about it, but still... no big deal. This was probably in the summer time.
One night, we all went for a walk. It must have been in the late Summer, early fall. She saw us out and about. She then saw Jason in our new vehicle, a Tahoe which posed her to ask him if he was "really married with kids and was this why he had bought a new family vehicle" to which he replied, "yes, I told you that." She was still in minor disbelief.
In October, she began to text message my husband to never tell her boyfriend that he was married. Okay, now this is where it gets weird to me!
She never explained, or at least Jason told me she never explained why she would want Jason to lie to her boyfriend about being married with children. This really, really upsets me and I get very juvenile about her name, seeing her etc.
It is my theory, that she used my husband at some point to make her boyfriend jealous. Possibly even telling him she liked him or messed around with him. I completely trust my husband and would never even consider the fact that he would actually cheat on me, but... I know most women by nature (this includes myself, so I hope not to offend any of you lovely ladies out there) know how to manipulate and can be very conniving, especially when we NEED to be (and I do believe most women at some point NEED to be a little conniving).
So, this is where I step in with the "I may sound crazy but... I don't want you talking to her and she's a bitch and there's something going on, " yadda yadda yadda. When he goes to the store, I refer to her as "the bitch" or something cynnical and/or catty.
So, knowing this story... Am I nuts or do I have a valid point in not wanting him to continue friendship with her. He has talked to her on occassions but not to extent, and also text messaged her briefly. The hello's at the grocery store, I can understand. The Text Messages on the other hand, touches a nerve.
Please offer your honest opinion, let me know if, yes, I am over-reacting or being irrational, or no, you would feel the same way, and do believe the girl's a little bitch for asking my husband to lie to her boyfriend about his marital status.
Much thanks and respect...
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Sooooo, the story goes like this. My husband TheDarkness is a very nice and VERY VERY HOT, GOOD LUCKING, SMART, CHARMING MAN. He very much doesn't believe this, but many of you met him at the SGAZ Christmas party so you can agree with me on that. Some time back, he became friends with a girl who works at our local grocery store and who he also started going to school with.
They talked at school and started text messaging each other. So far, nothing to have a dispute over. Jason would go to the grocery store with the twins and she asked him whose kids were with him. He told her his, to which she didn't believe. He reassured her that they were his and his wife's kids and she would banter with him to admit to her whose children my kids were. I thought, "kind of weird, but no big deal."
She has a boyfriend who also works at the same grocery store with her and he's a decent looking guy as well. Last summer they went to Disneyland and she brought Jason home Mickey Mouse ears with his name on it. I ribbed him about it, but still... no big deal. This was probably in the summer time.
One night, we all went for a walk. It must have been in the late Summer, early fall. She saw us out and about. She then saw Jason in our new vehicle, a Tahoe which posed her to ask him if he was "really married with kids and was this why he had bought a new family vehicle" to which he replied, "yes, I told you that." She was still in minor disbelief.
In October, she began to text message my husband to never tell her boyfriend that he was married. Okay, now this is where it gets weird to me!
She never explained, or at least Jason told me she never explained why she would want Jason to lie to her boyfriend about being married with children. This really, really upsets me and I get very juvenile about her name, seeing her etc.
It is my theory, that she used my husband at some point to make her boyfriend jealous. Possibly even telling him she liked him or messed around with him. I completely trust my husband and would never even consider the fact that he would actually cheat on me, but... I know most women by nature (this includes myself, so I hope not to offend any of you lovely ladies out there) know how to manipulate and can be very conniving, especially when we NEED to be (and I do believe most women at some point NEED to be a little conniving).
So, this is where I step in with the "I may sound crazy but... I don't want you talking to her and she's a bitch and there's something going on, " yadda yadda yadda. When he goes to the store, I refer to her as "the bitch" or something cynnical and/or catty.
So, knowing this story... Am I nuts or do I have a valid point in not wanting him to continue friendship with her. He has talked to her on occassions but not to extent, and also text messaged her briefly. The hello's at the grocery store, I can understand. The Text Messages on the other hand, touches a nerve.
Please offer your honest opinion, let me know if, yes, I am over-reacting or being irrational, or no, you would feel the same way, and do believe the girl's a little bitch for asking my husband to lie to her boyfriend about his marital status.
Much thanks and respect...
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But then, I foolishly believe that a lot of interpersonal relations can be solved by the talking thing.
But, I can't think of a good reason for her to want him to lie. So, you're probably right to be somewhat peeved, but not really angry.
Also....good lucking?
That's my opinion, for what it's worth. Hope you find a good solution.
Edited to say that I'm not getting into that "I'm always right" malarky
[Edited on Feb 25, 2005 10:39PM]