life is life and the hardest part of it is picking between yourself and the ones you love... when is the right time to put yourself first and when is the right time to put yourself last... some time picking the right one is wrong and sometimes the wrong one is right... when put into a postion such as this, one can only think of the long run and what is best for both, no matter what will happen at first its the long run that really counts... so sometimes hurting a loved one is something that can not be avoided... just do what seems right and hope for the best.. you know what i'm saying....