midnyte

That was very bleak. I feel for you. For what it is worth, regardless of the assertion that many give that family is everything - I am on your side. Your friends, the family you choose, are everything. That can include your parents, or it may not if you have a bad relationship. I have an extremely poor relationship with my father for various reasons. I will not forgive him the trespasses he made that damaged me, both directly and indirectly, in my youth.

Remember, your life is only as good as the people you fill it with. If you fill it with people you love, take joy in and appreciate then you will be fulfilled. If you fill it with the frail, the damaged and the wicked then you will suffer for that.

Argh!
Reading this makes my blood boil.
My mom used to complain that she was raised in a dysfunctional house and then created the same.
Some people just shouldn't be parents.
Your husband saying you should apologize sounds like when someone says, "get over it." I was raised in a cult and get that all the time. There are things that are ingrained in us that makes us who we are and in no way, shape or form can we forget. Being the bigger person isn't whats needed, rather, getting rid of the cancer is.
(cliche alert) Living well is the best revenge.
Live well.