believe me, i feel your pain. i'm the same way. that's why i decided after my last recordings, regarding anything that i was serious about releasing/promoting, that as much as i love recording, i didn't want to wear the two hats of both musician and engineer in the same session because it was too much. so i decided in the future that i wanted other people to record me when it comes to my own projects, i.e. my babies. otherwise, it's just too chaotic and i end up doing both at 50% as opposed to concentrating on one at 100%.
i wish you well, my friend.