I attended my first BDSM/Kink party (ever) at The Briar Patch last weekend. Everyone was so welcoming and friendly. I rarely felt any anxiety while there. As the night wore on, I talked to people from time to time, but about subjects other than kink - like any party. I went outside to get some fresh (crisp) air and joined two lovely women who gave each other a warming embrace. I never assumed to join in or anything, but was invited to join. I happily accepted. Later that night, inside, one of the two ladies was visibly uncomfortable. I asked if she was OK, and she said she was cold and asked me to snuggle her on the couch. Again, happily I accepted. This was the first time in over a year I embraced someone other than a family member or very close friend (my mother's funeral). I felt so content. I didn't need a sexual interaction to be complete. My arms wrapped around her, holding her chilled hands, transferring my warmth to her. She brushed her head against my cheek, and I in return, nuzzled back.
Sure, I got a little aroused, but that was only when two gentlemen were massaging her legs, which developed into biting. Her hands squeezed mine. She arched her back and I tightened my embrace to match her (and their) intensity. If I didn't know better, I believe she had at least one orgasm. I sat there, content, in my function as the hug she pressed into.