matrixxx

I'm doing good! Finally getting use to my new apartment and making it feel like a home!

to many things going on in my head to put down in a comment.

Under your heroes section it says you appreciate military members...

I wanted to say thank you, so often it feels like my jobs pointless so it's nice having a random stranger that doesn't hate me.

Thanks.

I dont think that is to much to ask for, I hope that happens for you some day.

There is nothing wrong with wanting more, you deserve to have a guy who loves you and is there for you every day.

awww.... wishing you the best of luck! xox

i really hope it does go well.

I think I just need some sort of guidance and if I could talk to my Dad just one more time it would be amazing. I go see her on Tuesday

Cuz they are BOYS

I think you are doing the right thing. If you two are not interested in the same kind of relationship, you need to get to the point where you are interested. Maybe it is friendship. The one thing I might suggest is that, if he does not have an answer by Monday, tell him that you will give him a little more time, but you do need to know.

My impression: you're making things too easy and coming off as clingy. To me, he's asking all the why questions because he's looking for a way to get out and turn everything around on you. The good ole manipulation game.

For your sake, I hope I'm way off.

He has been hurt so much because of his kid's mom. And I think that he is afraid of getting hurt. I know he wants a girlfriend and wants love and to be loved but I think what his kid's mom did to him is his reservations. I dunno. I guess I am just going to keep waiting. I don't put this much effort into anyone, so lets hope it is worth it.

very cool

I say have sex.

My ex-fiance and I waited, then finally did have sex BEFORE marriage. THANK GOD we did. She and I were not compatable sexually, literally and physically. Had we waited the marriage would have ended in divorce or I would have had to go somehwere else for a fulfilling sexual relationship.

Sex is not the whole relationship but IS A VERY BIG PART OF IT, just like spirituality, common goals, common interests. The only reason men and women ever got together in the first place was for SEX. Hell, 99% of the time we don't understand each other, don't get along, and can hardly live or work together. SEX is the one common NEED that brings us together and helps us to compromise and actually have a relationship.

Bottom line, I don't drive a car without test driving and knowing it feels right, smells right, and drives (me) right!

I respect you for your decision but from personal experience I think it's a big mistake.

Best of luck to both of you.

Michael

Wow that is pretty beautiful, I dont know if I could wait, that is pretty amazing.

i know EXACTLY where you are coming from.

Yep, I am in a similar situation. My philosophy is to take the risk, go for it, and whatever happens, happens. It might work out, it might not. The risk is, of course, rejection and pain, but anything worth having (and love is definitely worth having) is worth that risk. At least that's what I think.