Rule #1 - If they want to have sex with you, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #1a - If you want to have sex with them,
YOU AREN'T LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.
Rule #2 - If they want to play with you, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #2a - If you want them to play with you,
YOU ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.
Rule #3 - If they try to run your life or deny you access to other people or sources of information for your BDSM education, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #3a - If you are looking for them to run your life, make decisions for you, tell you who you can see, or what you can read, or who you can talk to to learn about this lifestyle, YOU ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.
Rule #4 - YOU, and only YOU, are responsible for wisely choosing a mentor. DO YOUR EFFING HOMEWORK before asking someone to be a mentor for you.
A mentor is a teacher, a guide, a sounding board, a friend. According to Webster's - a mentor is "a trusted counselor or guide." A mentor is there to answer your questions, offer advice, point you in the direction to find the answers you need. They are there to warn you when you are about to screw up... but they are not there to save you from your own hormones or stupidity. A mentor needs the ethics of a saint, and the patience of Job, the flexibility of a snake and a spine of steel sometimes.
A mentor isn't a fuck-buddy, a friend with benefits, a play partner, or control freak for your life.
Do not let a predator in mentor's clothing attempt to use you.