Hello guys, how are you?
Currently, someone posted the following comment on a social network: “I hope the happiness of others. Happy people are not a pain in the ass."
It will be? Also, can you be happy all the time?
If you need to try to be nice, you will never be nice. If you need to try to be happy, you will never be happy. Perhaps the problem today is that people are trying too hard and being too small.
I tend to "bother" my friends when I'm happy and when I'm feeling like crap. It does not depend exclusively on you, but on how people react to our "sudden" ones of extreme happiness or infinite agony. If you just got kicked in the ass, chances are you won't be able to be very happy when you find out that your best friend is marrying the man of your dreams. This is not about her, it is about you. Her happiness can now suck for you. If you just got fired and received a notification from LinkedIn to congratulate a friend for your promotion, you look like: ahhhhh ... you're kidding, right?
Happiness, like other emotions, is not something you buy, but something you live. When you are upset and throw a vase at the wall, you are not aware of your state of anger. You live the anger. You are the rage. And then she was gone.
This means that happiness is not achieved by itself. It is the side effect of a set of experiences that we have in life. This confuses people a lot, mainly because happiness is so commercialized these days. Buy X and be happy. Meet Y and be happy. But you cannot buy happiness and you cannot achieve happiness. Only that. You probably know someone who always seems absurdly happy, even if the world is collapsing. But is this uninterrupted happiness genuine? Denying negative emotions leads to even deeper and more prolonged negative emotions.
And this is what has happened to me ... entering a state of denial I cannot feel myself ... causing sadness and frustration ... The reality is simple: shit happens. Things are going badly. There are people that we cant accept, simply because some are boring. We wake up in a bad mood, slide and fall on our ass. At this point, negative emotions are already arising ...
There are a lot of people out there writing things on the "always be positive" line. Don't get me wrong. I am a positive person, I believe that balance is the basis of everything. The world is not an enchanted forest full of elves, fairies and lamp geniuses, but neither is it an endless pile of rubbish. If your level of happiness is always the highest, no matter what, my friend, you must have read Pollyana a little too much and need to check the reality. The same for those who think that everything is lost and that we are only here to suffer.
I think part of the fascination with this obsessive positivity is the path we are taking. I think part of all that happiness is due to the margarine commercials, with those perfect functional families smiling all the time, or the girl who menstruates and leaves the city wearing white pants looking like someone who won the lottery (myself when I'm menstruating I suffer from colic and migraine), or even the huge self-help industry that wants you to think there’s something wrong with you all the time.
And that is why happiness is so elusive. It doesn't matter where you are in life or what you've achieved: there will always be one more thing you need to do to be a little happier. And then, a little more ... and a little more ... you know ?! That's because our ideal is always three steps ahead of us. What matters is not whether or not we will achieve each of the success levels, but the fact that we are always on the move in relation to them.
@missy @rambo
