mandalic

1)
when i am sleeping i don't like to be bothered. i don't like to hear that people HAVE bothered me when i didn't know it. to me that's violating my space unconsentually. it's not as bad as rape or molestation, but it still feels bad in that way. sleep is something i take very seriously. not only do i usually have problems sleeping, i am picky about my surroundings where i will be sleeping. i like things to be quiet and dark and really warm, warm enough to where i don't need blankets and i have to be on something soft. i understand that these factors don't always happen, and depending on the situation that is okay, AS LONG AS it's not a person or persons who are ruining my sleep situation.

when i wake up that is not the time to bother me. and it's a really bad idea to wake me up in a shitty way. if i am in a situation where i am required to get up, i will. and if someone needs to wake me up they only have to gently shake my arm and say my name. loud noises, making the area bright or taking my blankets, or being annoying in any other fashion is a BAD IDEA. also you should basically tread lightly the first hour or 2 (sometimes 3 or 4) that i am awake. don't try to involve me in anything complicated, or ask me how i am, or try to talk to me about anything other than simple basic stuff. AND if you treat me like you think i am 1 step away from ripping your head off then i will. i'm generally okay to start out with, i get mad when people act as if i'm already cranky or they treat me like i will be. i'm not cranky unless and up until i am provoked.

2)
most of you smoke or if not you are totally okay with my and the other smokers of the world's habit. but i'd like to let everyone know: I SMOKE. I AM AN ADULT. I WILL NOT QUIT. DON'T TALK TO ME ABOUT HOW I SHOULD QUIT OR THAT ITS BAD FOR ME AND WILL KILL ME. I KNOW THESE THINSG BECAUSE I AM ALSO INTELLIGENT AND I PAYED SOME ATTENTION IN HEALTH CLASS. i chose to smoke despite the knowlege that smoking is bad for me. it's my life. leave me alone about it.(if it makes anyone feel better i have one cigarette to last me til thursday )

3)
also i'm particular about my food. the only food i don't like is celery(that i know of so far). i'll eat anything else, AS LONG AS it's prepared in a way that i like. i like condiments that i can add on to food. if we eat out together i ALWAYS want condiments on the side. i like to enjoy my food and try EVERYTHING. i'm a big fan of buffets and samplers and other things where you get to have a little bit of everything. i really do enjoy food. and i want it my way. so just expect that i change things and add things and remove things from my food. one thing that is really nice is when people remember my special food requests. to me that is better than unlocking the car door for the driver after they let you in the car first. it's not an instant 'people test' but it's a way i can tell if someone in my life actually cares.

one last thing: don't joke with me about being a finicky sleeper, don't joke about me being a smoker, and don't joke with me about my eating habits. that's something that will make me mad. very few people have gotten away with joking about these things. i have to be in a good mood, it has to be a genuine joke and it has to come from the right person. chances are that won't happen so if i were you i'd err or the side of caution and just accept these things as me.

i hope that i don't have to get into any of the other aspects of me and how things should be in my life. i hope that everyone will understand and respect my requests. there are many things that i do to respect everyone else, and i am willing to listen if someone feels bothered by something i have done. feel free to post questions or comments here.