JOURNAL:
O - kay Geniuses;
Kelly has a problem.
Lesson #5: It takes a man to admit they have a problem but a woman to admit it and then agonize over it without finding a solution.
Kelly's Ex has been on the menu for awhile, but she is being strong but weak with him. He went out with a wildly entertaining group of people (one ex, one ex-fuck, her ex and his client, another person he hooked it up with, and two other people to observe). He asks me on the side when all are leaving to go to dinner (dont ask how that whole thing worked but I was there) to stop by around midnight later. I ask sarcastically "well that is booty call hours,..." and he just says "hey I would like to see you". So kelly does her thing and then shows up later. He is drunk and sleeping on the couch, won't even get up to go to bed, undress, nothing. Fine. So instead of leaving like I should have, I sleep in the bed, set my alarm, get up earlier than normal only to wake him up nicely and move him into bed where the alarm clock is. I get a whole ten minutes of time with him cuddling and he just is so smiley to see me and have me around - the door mat feeling subsides momentarily while we cuddle up. Ten minutes later Kelly has to go to work, he remarks that he should have crawled into bed the night before with me and falls back to sleep. I leave. THE END>
My quandry: Even though the cuddle time is almost worth it, the door mat come upon demand thing is so not my style. I am usually stronger than that, I usually make them find me and come to me but he is different. If I do not chase him down, he disappears from my radar, and I have no idea how long it takes him to use my cell # to find me (because I have never waited that long). Last time I called him on the end of day 3.
I can justify chasing him down since he doesn't have a cell or a home # for whatever reasons but I feel more desperate by being that way. I only want to be a priority again, I want him to want to be in my presence, and I know for a fact that what am I doing now is and will not be effective in gaining my goal. What to do, what to do....
I am up for suggestions....
thanks for the sympathy, I just need to advice.
~ the angel*
O - kay Geniuses;
Kelly has a problem.
Lesson #5: It takes a man to admit they have a problem but a woman to admit it and then agonize over it without finding a solution.
Kelly's Ex has been on the menu for awhile, but she is being strong but weak with him. He went out with a wildly entertaining group of people (one ex, one ex-fuck, her ex and his client, another person he hooked it up with, and two other people to observe). He asks me on the side when all are leaving to go to dinner (dont ask how that whole thing worked but I was there) to stop by around midnight later. I ask sarcastically "well that is booty call hours,..." and he just says "hey I would like to see you". So kelly does her thing and then shows up later. He is drunk and sleeping on the couch, won't even get up to go to bed, undress, nothing. Fine. So instead of leaving like I should have, I sleep in the bed, set my alarm, get up earlier than normal only to wake him up nicely and move him into bed where the alarm clock is. I get a whole ten minutes of time with him cuddling and he just is so smiley to see me and have me around - the door mat feeling subsides momentarily while we cuddle up. Ten minutes later Kelly has to go to work, he remarks that he should have crawled into bed the night before with me and falls back to sleep. I leave. THE END>
My quandry: Even though the cuddle time is almost worth it, the door mat come upon demand thing is so not my style. I am usually stronger than that, I usually make them find me and come to me but he is different. If I do not chase him down, he disappears from my radar, and I have no idea how long it takes him to use my cell # to find me (because I have never waited that long). Last time I called him on the end of day 3.
I can justify chasing him down since he doesn't have a cell or a home # for whatever reasons but I feel more desperate by being that way. I only want to be a priority again, I want him to want to be in my presence, and I know for a fact that what am I doing now is and will not be effective in gaining my goal. What to do, what to do....
I am up for suggestions....
thanks for the sympathy, I just need to advice.
~ the angel*
surfbetty:
Advice...Girls rule and boys drool....Down with boys!!!! 