Having mentioned the other situation though of wow ok you sent me nudes.. why?
What do you do.
Especially once the sender goes oh um yeah that was a mistake I shouldn't have sent those.. like yeah you shouldn't have but where does that leave me. I'm fairly very reactive to NSFW material and I mean it wasn't even that much but it was over the line and I didn't ask for them and she regrets it.
Basically the door was opened and shut. Like 🤦🏾♂️ fr did the actually happen.. I can't really unsee that.
Pretty much no one else has ever done that to me so I'm like I don't know how to react. Should I assume the doors not closed and continue to try to push it back open?
No because regardless of what might have happened (did happen) she's not sending anything else and we really do have to move on and not think about it.
On my end that means I shouldn't mention it or expect anything. But also on my end I can't know for sure what's going on in her head.
At some point she thought that's what I wanted or was after (we've known each other over a year) all along. But regardless of that it's not what she wants to be a thing that happens again. Although she also still feels comfortable sending not quite SFW stuff.. 😥
Ultimately I'm fine with that too but... It did happen. I'm stuck thinking she's got that in her head. Even though I didn't ask for anything before.. she'll think I'll want more (regardless of what I actually want) and that she'll always have to refuse.
It's kinda why I don't date (never have never will). Like I honestly don't care what I'm offered because at the end of the day all I get is what I'm given because I don't ask for anything. I won't enter even if the door is open unless I'm told to come in.
She even called me out once though telling me I'm boring.. well no shit. But that doesn't change that I haven't changed.
Just doesn't seem to matter.