lylee

i think you should...or at least just swing by for a day in boston. i'll take you around, we can go on a duck tour, grab a beer in a real pub, boston type stuff.

you know what works wonders for me? leaving my cell phone off, forgotten at home while i go off on my own without telling anyone where i'll be. you get to enjoy yourself for a day or two or three if you have the time, and you dont have to worry about the rest of the world. oh, and abstaining from the internet goes without saying on this one too. the point is to gain some separation from people. alone with your thoughts or a good book. relax. go for a drive. that kind of thing.

the bonus at the end of it is when you come back after 3 days and people have been frantically looking for you for no good reason and you realize you just dont care. your ex will be freaking out, not cause he's worried about you, but because he doesnt have any kind of knowledge of where you are or what you're doing. no matter how many times i say it (and i know its a cliche) knowledge is in fact power. every little scrap of info gives someone a little bit more control. and when you unplug and excommunicate for a little while you have ALL of the control. complete and total. and the only people it bothers are people who really want to be able to hold that over you.

and in the least i think you need to interact with your ex a bit less for a while, because i think he still wants to play his game.